Dd almost 1 still bf, where do I go from here?

[Cupcakemummy85]

Dd is only a week away from being 1 and she is still being breastfed with formula night feeds. I've struggled since day one with dd breastfeeding and I've complained an moaned my whole way through nearly 12 months. I would like dd to start nursery in march for a couple of mornings a week and I was wondering how it will work as we have gotten into extremely bad habits. For example, she feeds to sleep for every nap and at night, she has the great whenever she wants, tugs at my top, pinches me, pretty much whatever she wants to me whilst breastfeeding. She does take a bottle but she doesn't take a lot of formula. Can I try her on cows milk a week earlier? My sister stop bf my nephew the day he turned one and he just accepted it. My dd however is extremely strong willed and difficult, wakes multiple times through the night, screams like a banshee, throws massive tantrums and all of this is remedied by the breast. How will I ever stop? I'm imagining 3-4 years down the line with a grown up toddler screaming because I refuse to give them boob.
Breastfeeding 10 times a day is very exhausting, especially when I have a 2.5 year old as well.
Does anyone have an advise or experience in this?

Yes it would be fine to try cows milk now. Are you wanting to stop bf or try and cut it down?

I think hat really matters is do you want to stop? A week earlier makes no difference, it's not like a switch over happens just because they are 1! I moved over a week or so early as I had finished a big box of formula. Stopping feeding through I hope someone more knowledgeable will be Long as both mine self weaned when I dared to go away for spa weekends and they didn't want to return to feeding afterwards ( although that might be your solution!)

Yes, I'd say you can try cows milk now.
What is she like with food? By that age mine could be put off bm by being offered fruit, so I used distraction, and then food to stop a demanded feed.

I think you need to decide what you want to stop the most - night wakes, tantrums, screams, and go one at a time. I think a cold turkey approach (assuming your looking to stop bf - most kids self wean between 2 and 4 if you want to carry on with instant cures on tap) approach will cause heartache on all sides.

I'm a bit scared to stop completely as she is a very tough baby. Breastfeeding is the only parenting tool that works with her. She goes trough phases of being great with food and then times where she won't eat much. Those are the times when she wants to feed all the time. I can never seem to distract her with food. I've tried lots of different tactics. I would probably be more inclined to carry on bf if it was only once in the morning and once before bed but it's impossible. She claws at me for the breast. What am I doing wrong?
At least I can offer her a but of cows milk and see if she likes that more than formula.