Feel like I'm learning all over again with 8 week old switching to formula, please help!

[Newmummee]

Ok so I been mix feeding as I couldn't cope with ebf And I think that unfortunate kit is not working out as i would've liked and my milk is definitely dropping so I'm using more formula. I don't really mind that this is happening but I'm struggling to know what to do about certain things like, when fb I just gave boob anytime she cried and I was sure it wasn't nappy or hot/cold. This always worked but is part of reason I couldn't cope as for first 6 weeks I just bf all day really. Anyway.... Now when she cries how would I comfort her? She doesn't like dummy and she comes across as hungry even though I fed her within last 2 hours, could she be hungry? Am I not feeding her enough? She has 4 or 5 oz which I believe is enough. Also how to introduce routine and sleep routine when I just feed her when she wants it?? I think I've done it all wrong and wish I knew then what I've come to learn now

Bless you. You haven't done anything wrong at all. You've done what worked for you both. Unfortunately babies have a habit of changing the rule book. They tend to do this just when you've got into the swing of it!

2 hourly isn't unreasonable for an 8 week old. You will find that she will gradually go longer between feeds as she takes more milk. They also have days when they are just really hungry (growth spurts probably) and will feed more frequently. One of my 3 took to a dummy,which was fine for a while but a pig to get rid of later on. My youngest loved sucking the corners of his muslin squares. You'll find something that will comfort her. In the meantime, remember they are not babies for long. The first 3 months are the hardest, and nobody has ever cuddled a baby too much! As for routine, I never put one into place as such, but found they found their own routine, or shape to the day. You will too, but 8 weeks old is still very new.

Thank you bad mum, thank you so much! I think I can be hard on myself at times. Is it true what u say? I can't spoil her by cuddling her to sleep etc at this age?

Of course it's true- is there such a thing as too much love? I cuddled all of mine to sleep, as I saw that as quality time. This was particularly important on my 3rd as he had to slot in with the older ones so we would cuddle up and sometimes I'd snooze with him in my arms. Bliss! Somebody told me once to think of the first 3 months as the 4th trimester. You've carried her for 9 months, so why should she suddenly want to be all alone? All good mums are hard on themselves, because you want the very best for your precious baby. Just go with what feels right. Listen to advice, but do what you want and what feels natural to you. Xx