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Heartbroken - Help Please

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Romily · 24/01/2014 05:59

My gorgeous son was born premature and after a couple of weeks of hospital care we successfully established breast feeding and came home. At the start of the week his weight was increasing and he was feeding long and often.

The last couple of days however he has been refusing to latch or fussing and coming on and off with only short feeds and as a result has lost weight which means they are considering taking him back into hospital. Today we spent skin to skin in bed to try and increase feeds and weight but he was sleepy, uninterested and when offered breast fussy. His latch is fine and I am producing plenty of milk he is offered a feed at any sign of interest and has not been left to become upset before feeding.

I do have mastitis and am on antibiotics which may or may not have an impact but am still offering both sides.

As a last resort we offered him a bottle and he wolfed it down which has left me distraught as I really want to breastfeed and give him the best start. How do I balance keeping his weight up and him at home with breastfeeding when he is not interested? Do I persevere and keep offering him the breast and give him bottles too? I just want to do what is best for him.

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FadBook · 24/01/2014 06:19

What a tough time. You are amazing for getting this far.

You have good milk supply - express? Give that via syringe or cup?

It'll keep your supply up and baby still gets your milk.

Do you want to breastfeed? If so, you need to seek some real life support from an experienced Bf counsellor. We could all give some advice / timings to feed etc but we have to be really careful as we don't the facts (weightloss).

Google BF support and your location and see what comes up.

You are doing what's best for him and that's seeking reassurance and advice. He's still maturing and his body is still working out what to do when you give him a boob. It'll be tiring etc.

Congrats on your baby boy

StuntNun · 24/01/2014 06:19

You need help from a breastfeeding expert. Can you ask your health visitor if they have a specialist? Or contact La Leche League? It can be very difficult to tell if a latch is correct, especially if there is an underlying lip or tongue tie. My DS3 seemed to be feeding well but he was a lazy latcher who would throw himself at the breast any old how. So he was getting milk slowly but I ended up in a lot of pain. Have you tried nipple shields at all to make things easier while you have mastitis? Don't be too alarmed by your baby drinking a bottle fast. They have a reflex to suckle when anything goes near the roof of their mouth. Also as the milk comes in they have to keep sucking or they will choke. A newborn baby or a breastfed baby that isn't used to bottles will often gulp down a whole bottle because they don't know how to stop it by opening their mouth or turning their head away. So the parent thinks the baby must have been hungry because they drank a bottle whereas the baby just have been sucking reflexively.

Superworm · 24/01/2014 12:10

Poor you mastitis is the pits. Sounds like you are doing brilliantly with such a difficult start. Definitely get some real life support.

If you can afford it, a lactation consultant would be able to observe and help. I always justified it by thinking if the money I would spend on formula.

You can find your nearest one here Otherwise the breastfeeding helplines are great.

Le Leche league - 0845 120 2918

National breastfeeding helpline
0300 100 0212

Do ring someone, they are lovely and will have great advice. Get someone to keep checking the latch, positioning, check for tongue tie etc.

isisisis · 24/01/2014 13:30

The advice you've had above is fabulous. Please, please call someone & get some help. Wishing you luck & a speedy recovery.

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 24/01/2014 13:33

Definitely contact the helplines. I second how good they are.

How do you feel about expressing? Could that be an option...?

Good luck. You really have done marvellous you know.

Superworm · 24/01/2014 19:31

How are things romily ?

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