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This is one of the saddest things I have ever read

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MadIsTheNewNormal · 03/01/2014 07:26

I posted this in Mental Health but it is very pertinent to this forum too, so I would like to link it here, and get your thoughts. Sad

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/feeling_depressed/1955279-This-is-one-of-the-saddest-things-I-have-ever-read?msgid=44051796#44051796

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LineRunner · 03/01/2014 07:55

But the story is about the inadequate provision of mental health services for this very vulnerable woman.

The Fail spin is disingenuous.

clabsyqueen · 03/01/2014 08:49

Good grief. This makes me angry. This is not an article about breastfeeding leading to a breakdown. This is a sad story about a woman suffering with postnatal depression. The headline shocks me. The daily mail will quite happily post this alongside an article saying 'formula fed kids fall behind at school' then bang on about how we can raise the IQ points of our kids by breastfeeding.
Argh.
Thank you for this link. It's going into my 'reasons to hate the daily mail' pile.

WaitingForPeterWimsey · 03/01/2014 09:03

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PedlarsSpanner · 03/01/2014 10:17

oh gosh yes, the lady was failed by MN services, what a dreadfully sad tale

WHY does the DF hate breastfeeding so so much? The headline is disgraceful and misleading. Grrr.

FrumiousBandersnatch · 03/01/2014 12:04

Just read this - so very, very sad but really nothing to do with breastfeeding, and everything to do with inadequate mental health support. I hope that the demonising of bf is entirely on the Mail's part because if not then it is a serious red herring in the poor widower's campaign for his wife.

Happydaze77 · 03/01/2014 13:39

Totally agree with Frumious.

kazza446 · 03/01/2014 15:28

Having just had some experience of the mh services on offer to myself with pre-natal mood disorder it does not surprise me. I denied anything was wrong up until I was 6 months pregnant. My gp was amazing, suggested I accessed mh services for some cbt and put my mind at rest that I wasn't the first mum to not feel attached or excited at the prospect of being a mum. The mh service on the other hand was shocking. I had an hours counseling session with a worker, where I divulged my soul only to be told there was nothing she could do. Basically lectured me on the dangers of stress (no shit) and told me I had to make time for myself, (obviously she wasn't a full time working mum..)
Made me fee like it had been an utter waste of time.
I was supposed to be having a prenatal meeting with my health visitor, this never happened..
I received a text message from some random person I had never heard of, nor did she introduce herself to me asking if I wanted any support. Of course I declined it from some random stranger.
I was also promised that I would be monitored for 48hrs in hospital to endure that no post natal depression had kicked in, agsin no one visited or asked me if I was ok.
I have only seen a midwife twice since discharge, even though my baby had some complications in first few days and I had s section.
Luckily all my anxieties decreased once baby arrived and I have felt great but can't help feeling its a good job I am!
I really feel for anyone in need of mh service provision.

Sunflower1985 · 03/01/2014 21:15

I've attended pnd support group and of 6, 3 bf their babies. I wonder what the research says - are mothers with pnd more or less likely to bf? Is there a correlation between bf or not and developing pnd? Is there a correlation between not getting to feed the way you want or feeling guilty or unsupported?
I had/have anxiety and to me bf was a way of keeping my ds close, the idea being if I'm the one feeding him then we can't be parted.

clairikins · 04/01/2014 00:10

I agree, this is a sad and truly tragic story. And has nothing to do with breastfeeding. She had PND, she pleaded for help and it was ignored. That is the lesson that we should learn.

But lets sensationalize the story

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