Goddammit. Please help me decide.

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Tongue tied baby.
Snipped.
Grew back.
Snipped again.
Think its grown back. Again.
Do I just give up now? There's worse things, right? She's 4 months old, plenty of wet and pooey nappies.
One pro to bf is I can feed her in bed
But out in town there aren't many places to sit and feed a baby.
I'm sore as hell on one side, and think she's been through enough frankly, with the two snippings.
But I really don't want to give up. I won't feel like I've failed, I know I've done my best.
Feel a bit upset an teary though at the thought of stopping at this stage, after everything. Or do I give the tt one more try at snipping.
TIA x

Just a thought, if it's between giving up when you don t want to try a nipple shield to give your poor nips a bit of a break.Your milk supply is probably well established. It might just be the thing that gets you through.Failing that just express and give by bottle if you feel you ve reached the end of the line.You have not failed at all. It's such a shame that women feel this way.Please remember in a couple of months she will be tucking into solids so things change again.

Thanks sandly I'm more gutted about this constantly growing back tongue tie if I'm honest.
Dd clicks and gets frustrated, snaps her head back a lot on one side and drools milk out of the corner of her mouth. When she had it cut everything was fine for around a week or two each time, so tempted to try one last time. I'm on a tightrope atm - I know I've tried my best though either way and no one is judging me for it, so its my personal feelings going on
Thanks for the advice and support x

Be kind to yourself. I would stop and FF. You can both relax then.

Personally, when DD3 (she's six months) had regrowing tongue tie, I expressed BM and topped up with formula. It made me feel so much better and more relaxed, calm, less stressed, and DD3 was also more relaxed.

Thanks Kelly
Islenka I think that's what I'll en up doing. I gave it a try.
Just dispatched a friend to tesco then sat here crying for a bit, got over myself an gave dd a bottle. She took to it right away unlike ds the boob monster so I think I'll crack out the pump

Don't feel bad, formula isn't evil, it's just different. My daughter had severe tounge tie, and the nhs waiting list was 5 weeks, and we couldn't afford to go private.. I struggled on for 2 more weeks.. We both hated every min of it, gave her a bottle, my dp gave her a bottle when I slept and let my poor nips recover and you know what.. She survived and is 1 on Friday :)

I know it's a hard decision, but ultimately, you have to so what makes YOU and BABY happy, no one else. Grumpy mummy= grumpy baby an vice versa!

Good luck :)

I'm all over BF normally but give yourself a break. Do what works for both of you - if that includes mixed/formula/pump then all well and good.
But I agree with popup, do what you want to do. Don't regret your choices.

Oh poor you.

Have you spoken to whoever did the snipping about why it keeps growing back, and if there is any way to make sure this wouldn't happen if you had another snip? I'm thinking maybe exercises, or even laser so that the cut is cauterised (only ever heard of this being done privately though...)

Regarding BF vs bottle feeding, it's entirely your choice, you shouldn't feel bad either way, you've given it a hell of a lot longer than many women do including those who have no difficulties. but I have heard that untreated tts can cause problems later on so just wondering if it's worth one more try at snipping it (IF they could come up with something that would avoid re growing next time - realise this may be unlikely).

I had DS TT snipped three times as it kept regrowing. Have you been going the stretching exercises after each snip?

It still grew back but by that stage he was bigger and we just kind of kept going.

Could you mix feed - bf off the not sore boob and formula to make up the difference? Then she's still getting some bf and you're still getting the benefits, but hopefully not the pain and any other negatives that force your hand.

I heard this is possible but may make you uneven

DS had more trouble with the latch in the left side. It turned out to be from a stiff neck. Took him to a cranial osteopath who straightened him out.

I can sympathise with you - DD4 has had 2 TT snips and could well do with a 3rd (I think a z-plasty is her best option now) as well as upper lip and buccal ties. She's 15m and while we'll never win any awards for technical skills she is still bfing. I have come close to saying enough is enough plenty of times but take each feed as it comes even now.

Perhaps a way forward would be to bf when you/DD feel able to and bottle feed when you don't?