Bit of an odd post, but I've just heard that my uncle's ex-wife has died; she'd only be in her late 40s and I don't know how she died. I just know that my dad's little brother treated her abysmally, ignored her children when he found an OW, and she was a calm, stable mother to her kids, and made sure they still visited their maternal grandmother despite their father refusing to see them.
She was also the only woman I can ever remember in any bit of our family who breast fed her children. This would have been about 1984 - 86, and I would have been about 8 years old, but the image of her feeding her DD stuck with me: how she could feed her babies like that despite no-one else around her doing so, and within a family where dubious choices were generally made about children's feeding - squash in bottles, heavy smoking in the family home, poor quality food bought because of poverty.
She will have no idea the lasting impression this had on me, as I last saw her in the 1990s when the maternal grandmother died, and my (breastfed) son wasn't born until 2009, but I just wanted to remember her somewhere where her influence will be recognised.
RIP Denise. Your positive actions in bringing up and developing your children have cast a long and positive shadow. I remember you, and feel sad that you couldn't know that.