My dd is 15 months. I also have ds, 3yrs. With ds I nightweaned about 9 months was down to 2 feeds a day with no problems at 12 months then reduced to one and then stopped at 14 months - had a child free wedding so had the date in mind for a while. He didn't take a bottle, just a cup. No problems. I did have quite a lot of help from DH with bedtime/nighttime as needed. None of this helped sleep mind you and he is now a real daddy's boy who DH sits with to go to sleep and who comes into our bed every night but goes bananas is DH is not there. As a result. DD bedtime/nighttime has been down to me.
She feeds before sleep - not usually 'to sleep' is up 1-4 times overnight and I usually end up feeding her every time. She sometimes has a morning feed and if I am not working is despereate for one or sometimes 2 feeds during the day ( and I am hopeless at being firm about not feeding her - she pulls my top, cries, attempts to suckle through my top if it is high necked) she is fine through the day when at nursery.
I am getting to the point where I resent BF. I am also shattered. I also miss the closeness with ds. We have tried 'swappoing children' overnight but it resulted in both children crying/screaming on and off for 3 hrs at at the end of that I breast fed DD and DS was in bed with DH - epic fail!
So, how to reduce/stop BF at this age when they don't want to (and I'm not even sure I want to stop but CANNOT carry on like this) I am hopeless in the middle of the night when she is pulling my top down and screaming. I give in. Any thoughts, advice or experience gratefully received!
PS she has never taken a bottle but does take cows milk from a cup. Doesn't eat very well either which may be unrelated but I wonder if it would improve if she was breast feeding less?
Thanks