How to stop 2yo bf at night?

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DD is 2 in a couple of weeks and still BF with no signs of stopping. I don't mind at all and when I'm working she goes all day without but it's the night feeding that I need to stop.

We have coslept from birth and I really want to get her in her own bed now but she still wakes 2-3 times for a comfort feed. At the moment that's fine because we all just sort of sleep through it. Do I need to wean her then move her to her own bed or move her and hope she learns to sleep through?

Any experience or advice much appreciated, TIA.

I've not got nothing helpful to add but I'm interested in others experiences. Dd2 just turned 2 and wakes up at least 3 times every night to feed, and has co slept since birth. Next week I am leaving her (abroad) with dh and in laws for a week and hoping that will be an end to the bfing!

Ooh good luck Bee. I guess it will have to be! I left DD for 1 night with DH while I went on a hen night and nobody in the house slept that night. I on the other hand had a great night

Well since dh never did the night feeds or changes at all for dd2, it's definitely his turn! Though I do feel a bit sorry for dd2 as I've only ever left her during the day to go to work.

I recently night weaned then completely weaned my 2 year old. It was awful, he screamed pretty much all night every night for a week and clearly felt and still feels confused and angry and betrayed. I would never have done it had I not been pregnant and desperate myself . But on the bright side, many people seem to do it with a lot less trauma! Have you seen the Pantley pull off technique or the dr Jay Gordon's night weaning method?

Oh and I should add we have always co slept and still do. I've never left him to cry, he did cry and scream a lot but I stayed with him and comforted him in any way I could, apart from bf. I still felt awful, sad and guilty

That's exactly what I want to avoid but really want my bed back and unbroken sleep.

I do hope you can avoid it being traumatic. I'm watching in case anyone has any wisdom I can learn from for dc2. I never wanted to give up breastfeeding ds1 but it became intolerable in pregnancy and although I know some people do it, I also felt tandem feeding wasn't going to work for us. I did try to cut down before stopping so it wasn't a shock, and I used the Pantley pull off to try and change the suck- sleep association (it was partly successful and did improve his sleeping) but when I finally started refusing all feeds it was total carnage, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It didn't help that he had colds and sore throats soon after stopping and he rightly thought that feeding would help

I night weaned both my boys at 16 mo (at separate times - there's a couple of years between them) at first I chose not to feed between 12am and 5am. If they woke anytime up to midnight I would feed them. When they woke (and I would be in bed with them by midnight) I would say 'boobies gone to sleep now shh shh' etc. first night was not brilliant but all good by 3rd. And if you cosleep they have you there anyway. Ds1 completely self weaned at 2.3yo but am still feeding ds2 2.5yo. Hes not very well atm so has had some sneaky feeds through the night this week!!

Thanks. So far DD is sleeping in her bed till 3 then having a comfort feed and staying with me so we are improving and I am getting some time to myself

Just an update on my poor dd2, we went cold turkey as are in different countries, apparently she cried herself to sleep with my mil rocking her on the first night, and was vomiting in the morning, dh thinks its some kind of withdrawal? I don't take any drugs of any kind or alcohol, but I do eat a hell of a lot of sugar so not sure if it could be that, or maybe just from her being so upset? Dh reckons she is getting slowly better and it'll be her 3rd night away tonight and he thinks she might sleep a bit more tonight as she has been a teary little owl for the last two

I highly recommend you trying the pantly pull off method for the final feed of be night. It worked a treat for us when my dd was 11 months old

Oh Bee feel for you! Hope she's been a it better x

Keep reading about this pantly pull off, will google it thanks