will my 10wo ever stop feeding??

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I'm lying in bed feeding my 10wo dd and I'm in floods of tears as she just wont stop feeding. I try to give her naps of 90 mins after waking periods of 90 mins (ie 3 hour cycle) through the day, and of the 90 minute period she feeds up to 30 or more minutes, normally about 10 mins of fussing ahead out over the first 25 mins, then I might get a break of 20-30 mins, then more tired fussing until she goes to sleep on the boob. So it seems relentless!
oh and she only ever sleeps 40 mins (can't transition) unless I'm napping with her or she is in the sling.
So with changing, which takes about 15 mins as I like to give her lots of no nappy time to keep some nasty nappy rash at bay, I only ever get 10 mins off from dealing with her. I'm going a bit crazy!! DP would love to help but a) she's a bottle refuser and b) when he gets back from work at 6.45 we are in the final wind downbefore bed, so he gets to play with a grouchy baby for 30 mins, during which time she just sucks her hand and whines, presumably for more boob?
I'm sure she was happy for little spells a couple of weeks ago but I can't really remember, at the moment she just seems grouchy all the time.
And I have oversupply so often the feeds feel like a fight between a hungry baby and a milky hosepipe, with a heartbroken mum inbetween.
PLEASE can someone tell me this sounds familiar, and it gets better? should she be feeding this much? she chalks up 2.5-3 hours of feeding a day but it's very on and off, partly because of the oversupply issue.
thankfully she sleeps at night, going down about 8.15 (after a 30 min feed) then waking 2-3 times before 7 when we get up.
HELP before I drop her out the window!! (Joke, I'm frustrated but don't think I have PND, just need some support from people who have had similar guzzlers)

Ah it's a nightmare. But lovely at the same time puts rose tinted glasses on

Maybe call LLL or one of the other bf helplines to reassure you - it does get easier. Growth spurts are tortuous - do you think she's having one?

Be gentle with yourself and well done for getting this far. I'm still taking every day (hour) as it comes at 18 weeks. It does get easier I promise.

For us it seemed to settle down at about 12 weeks.

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to summarise my rant- has anyone else had a 10wo fatty (17lb) who cluster feeds whenever awake? and did it end?! and is there anything I can do to encourage her to have longer feeds rather than constant snacking?

thanks troopers, I just wanted someone to tell me it'll end soon! it seems like she's having one long continuous growth spurt, and given she has put on 8lbs in 10weeks it would appear she is!!

bump- anyone else able to advise or support? I'm feeling really alone here and being ignored by mn doesn't help. or is my child so odd that no one can relate? if so please tell me and I'll get down to the doctor next week.

bump- anyone else able to advise or support? I'm feeling really alone here and being ignored by mn doesn't help. or is my child so odd that no one can relate? if so please tell me and I'll get down to the doctor next week.

I have no advice I'm afraid, but mine is similar! He's almost 10 wks and does not like sleeping in the day. He likes feeding and will do so every 2hours with literally 2 20-40 min naps in the day. He goes down (on me in the lounge) between 8 & 930, dream feed at 1030 then feeds 1-2 times before up at 7. We're co sleeping too so it does feel relentless and my 3yo DS1 does not like the lack of attention . All I can say is that it does get better, when, I'm not sure! You're not alone - I'm afraid it's how a lot of them are. They are eating machines who can only really cry for communication. The crying gets less, the smiles get more and their little tummies grow. You're doing a wonderful job to have such a whopper of a baby!! Well done, now have some and

It will get better. They start feeding less often but more importantly they get FAST. DS is 9 mo and takes about 5 mins to drain a breast! I often look back wistfully at those days where I'd sit down with a cuppa, the tv remote and my mobile knowing that the next hour was taken care of!!

No advice but oh thank god other peoples 10 week old are doing this! She's either feeding, furious or asleep at the moment!

Sid, Bona and Bee thanks for your replies, it's so nice to hear I have company. DP is at his work xmas do so I'm feeling clingy! I feel unreasonable complaining as I have a very healthy little baby, and she's happy most of the time (except the last couple of days when she's been a miserable monster), but I really needed a vent.
I'm so glad it's Xmas now and I'll have some help.
Ladies congratulations on your babies and let's hope the smiles outweigh the grizzles soon. I love my DD so much, but fuck me I'm happy when she goes to sleep! I've just had 90 mins to myself. The house is a mess, I ate cheese on toast, watched sex and the city and cuddled my poor neglected cat. it was amazing.

Sounds ever so familiar and also totally normal. She could also be going through a growth/developmental spurt. Have a look at this website:

www.thewonderweeks.com/gb/

It's the site linked with the book (the book is fab and VERY reassuring, I well recommend reading it).

Even if she isn't going through some kind of spurt at the moment it still sounds normal. Babies like to feed a lot. There's so much more to a breastfeed than the consumption of calories and the filling of an empty belly. It's reassuring, it's comforting and it also stimulates her and believe it or not it exercises her.

DS is now 8 months and pretty much his 1st 4 months was spent on the sofa feeding and sleeping. Now he's down to about 5 feeds a day (and anywhere from 2 to about 8 feeds a night!). I also had what felt like too much milk but it settled and yours will too.

It will get easier. Try to relax about timing stuff and just listen to your baby, take your lead from her and not the clock. General rule of thumb is if she's awake, feed her.

Loving the sound of your evening kiki!

Kiki I also have a poor neglected cat! If it hadn't been for my DH I'm not sure if I'd remembered to have fed him for the first two weeks, I was do focused on DD.
Very jealous of your cheese on toast! Good luck with it all, hopefully we will all manage to survive the next few weeks

DDis8 weeks. I spend my life saying "I really don't know why she's crying. She can't possibly be hungry." Then I try her on the boob and she nearly swallows me whole!

Do you think it might help if you step away from the clock? Your first paragraph sounds full of anxiety about timing.