No interest in 7am feed

[GeorgieJo]

Hello,

Wondered if anyone could advise me. First child, DS, is 9 weeks tomorrow. For the last 10 days or so he has had very little interest in his first feed of the day (which is usually at 7 or 8am). He will stay latched on for 5 - 10 minutes, but that is it.

He feeds well throughout rest of the day, feeding for more like 20 - 40 minutes, and at night.

We are ebf and on demand, but he has settled into his own pattern of feeding at
around 11pm/midnight, 3/4am, 7/8am.

Various ILs, all of whom FF, say that if he isn't interested in 7/8am feed then he doesn't need the 3/4am feed and I should start trying to cut that out.

While I would LOVE to sleep longer through the night, when he wakes at 3/4am he is hungry. So how could I do anything except feed him??

At the same time it does seem odd that he isn't really very hungry in the morning. No idea what to make of that.

Any thoughts/suggestions really welcome!

Thank you

He is still young I would let him feed when he wants. Babies are odd and children / adults as well. Once you realise that life is a lot easier

He will probably completely change next week.

Honestly, I think they're talking rubbish. Nursing less in the morning just means he wants to nurse less in the morning, not that he needs to drop an earlier feed. If I fancy something light for dinner it doesn't mean I should stop eating lunch.

When he wakes up at 3/4am and is hungry, the only way you are going to be able to stop him nursing is by letting him cry, and cry, and cry. It doesn't sound like you're up for that, so tell them this:

"I'm going to leave it the way it is thanks. Refusing him milk is cruel. I'll stick to feeding on demand, it's supported by masses of evidence and even if it wasn't, I think he's better placed than you are to tell me when he is hungry and when he isn't, don't you?"

Or maybe something a bit more 'how to win friends and influence people', I'm not very tactful

Please don't listen to other people, especially people who have had no recent experience of babies and none at all of bf.

Listen to your baby :)

A 7 week old still needs frequent feeding, and the vast majority of babies, ff or bf, need to feed in the night.

What on earth do they expect you to do with a 7 week old who is hungry/thirst/lonely in the night?? Ignore him and leave him to cry??

And tell your ILs and anyone else who wants to chuck their tuppence into the mix not to make any further comments, thank you.

Hi op, fwiw my dd does this too - she is 12 weeks now and has been like it for the last few weeks. She also is definetly hungry at 3/4 ish but then 7ish is almost always a quick 'snack'! She then makes up for it around 10am at the next feed. As the others have said just go with the flow, may all change next week!

I have one like that! 9 weeks old and he has a feed at around 4 wakes up at 7ish but isn't very interested in feeding until 10, after he's had another nap. He'll be different again soon I'm sure. Am longing for more than 3 hours of sleep in one go!

You're so lucky!

My 6 month old wakes for a feed at 22:30, 02:30, 05:30 (then starts the day) and 08:30.

I suppose I should be thankful he's stopped feeding 2 hourly round the clock BUTTTT...