I have 2 DCs under 2, I want to be able to go out more with both. If I need to feed DC2 I have to try to do it in the sling whilst chasing after a toddler. My boobs are huge, I don't have endless hours to sit at mum/baby groups like with DC1 and all those mums are back at work so I don't have peer support. I have a million and one things I need to do and DC1 has weekly hospital appts, which basically sap the soul out of all 3 of us as parking is crap and there is no direct step free public transport. My mother is deceased and other family on both sides are miles away.
Its a flipping mission so I can only find the energy to take them both to softplay once a week, I find myself having to stop the elder kids shoving my DC1 over or helping her walk/climb (she's not very good at it due to torticolis). So DC2 is in the sling, he always wants feeding, about every 90 mins (sleeps well at night though), I have to feed him and look after DC1. I think I am unapproachable by other mums, my eldest has a twisted neck and I've got my boob out, I find people stare at all of us and then look away if I catch them looking. I don't feel comfortable or have a spare second to introduce myself. I'm given a wide berth.
Its the same at the hospital, they have nowhere for breastfeeding mums to go feed. So I usually end up trying to be discreet but failing big time in waiting rooms. Basically my tit ends up on show, DC2 pulls anything off I try to cover us with, or DC1 wants to climb on me, or wants me to play with her.
How the hell do I breastfeed him discreetly with a toddler who will not sit still (understandably).
I fear DC1 is missing out on a social life so we are using savings to put her in nursery for 2 days a week. I don't have this problem when I go out with DC2 on our own. But I find the break means I can do the shopping/laundry/cooking/cleaning and precious 1 on 1 time with DC2. DH does help but works long hours.
Anyway should I just resign myself to the fact the general public are just going to have to get used to seeing my DC2 feed from my breast or is there another way?