Tips for bf-ing a wriggler???

[badguider]

Ds 3mo is turning every bf into a bloody wrestling match. Can no longer feed out of the house :(

He licks my cleavage and gets pissed off there's no nipple up there and I just cannot manoeuvre mouth and nipple into the same vicinity with him crawling all over me and back arching and kicking.

When he does latch he comes off to wriggle as soon as letdown comes so we both get soaked and sticky :(

Bloody nightmare. He's not keen on bottles either but that's going to be my only option in public :(

I can't offer any real advice except to ask if it's always been like this..

Dd has : tongue tie, silent reflux, and I suspect she is teething. It's a nightmare.. Think your back arching comment nailed it, he sounds very frustrated and or may be in pain.

Can you ask the health visitor, or lactation consultant?
Is it only in public btw.. If it is you may be stressed and he picks up on that, I'm a confident bf'er and I struggle in public with almost the same results as I don't feel relaxed

do you think your let down could be too quick for him? trying lying back/slouching back as it will decrease the flow

Thanks.

To answer the questions- its not always been like this but earlier he couldn't really wriggle/kick the way he can now and also when he was younger he wasn't so into everything!

He had TT cut at 3wks and I'm pretty sure it hasn't regrown due to the mobility he has in his tongue now.

It could be my letdown but he's been fine with it for 12weeks so why suddenly not now?

And no, it's not just in public, but at home I can take my whole top off and wrestle into a stupid position with him with lots of shouting in the process (him shouting not me :)

Oh and went to HV today who suggested GP and/or bf clinic.
Might try the bf clinic first - they're who diagnosed tt in week1 and they're pretty good. They're not near me till Friday but I can drive to where they are on a Wednesday.

Possibly it's a phase. My ds started wriggling about that time and getting very distractible. A month later and he calmed a lot. A nursing necklace helped with the pinching and different positions - like him straddling my knee sitting up (heard it called the koala). He did not want to lie down.

It's horrid when it's a struggle isn't it. You get a mental picture of a happy snuggly baby feeding with ease.. Lol

I hope you get the support you need.
Fwiw I only struggle with feeding when out because I shop locally and apart from a pub there's nowhere to sit and feed unless you're buying drinks

I would try the bf clinic. We have breastfeeding buddies here they offer a great service voluntarily, I'd like to train as one tbh, anyway, you're doing a great job and I hope you get the help you need to make sure it continues

Oh yh yh to the breastfeeding necklace. Stopped DS nipple pinching/twiddling like a radio knob

Any particular bf necklace or do I just google?

Thanks :)

You have my sympathy. My dd (10 weeks) likes to 'help' with her hands. I think she watched a youtube video about hand compressions over my shoulder... She sometimes eats in a ring sling which keeps her still- could that work for you?

Mammafeelsgood do beautiful nursing necklaces, expensive but beautiful.

I got a breastbuddies necklace for £12 from their eBay shop, but any as long as it's tough and chunky.

My DD is strong and likes to do the compression thing too. Once she gets comfy it's a lovely boob hug, but I have to wrestle her on sometimes.

When she's particularly bad I wrap a muslin across her front, tuck her arms in, and lower her onto the boob holding the muslin right across her back. A bit like a straight jacket I suppose.

Needs must.