booby obsessed 2 year old!!!HELP!!!!!!

[buffythenappyslayer]

my dd is 2 a week on saturday,and i never thought that id last this long with bf.
she has cf,and i was told to feed her for as long as possible as its better for her as its easy to digest.
thing is,she is constantly on me.no joke,she'll wake up in the morning yank at my top screaming 'booby please'.she has her breakfast,and a boob.has her physio,and a boob.
she goes from one side to the other and back again.attimes i feel there was no point in me getting dressed as i seem to be just sat with my boobs out all the time!!
she wakes between 4-7 times a night,each time for a boob.
im just so stressed and tired,and seem to constantly have headaches.
i know its best for her,but i just dont think its doing me any good.
i cant even go anywhere without her demanding boobies.if i refuse her she screams to the point shes sick.
just wondering if anyone has any advice or been through this themselves.
sorry if this topic has been done to death!!!

I know everyone is very big on demand feeding, but you don't have to demand feed, if you don't want to.

I stopped demand feeding around when DS2 turned one. (Stopped night feeds around 9 months, did cc.) He only gets boob in my bedroom, basically, or in his brother's. If he wants to demand a feed when we're at home, he can take my hand and try to lead me to my room. I will ask "do you want boob?" and then decide whether the answer is yes or no.

Moving from demand feeding to "in my room only" took a few days, there was some shouting, but it meant I could happily continue bf, and probably will keep bf for the forseeable future (he is 22 months now).

She will really shout when you start saying "no", but if you are consistent and calm, she will accept it.

(Disclaimer: I know sod all about cf. You're doing a really good job, and I'm sure all the breastmilk is great for her. But if you need to change how you do it, and that means you can keep bf for longer, surely that's a good thing?)

Oh, and here is my recent thread on the same subject. Since then I've tried to give him long feeds at the usual times, and he does sometimes get bored now and willingly stop bf so we can get a move on.

Buffy, in exactly same situation (had started a thread this morning in desperation about stopping cold turkey). But boobs would be HUGE as even if I miss a feed they are rock-solid. DS got o upse when I said no to his 'nums' before his nap today I just gave in. Think am going to do what NQC suggests.

i bf 2 of my other 4 children,but managed to stop when they were around 9 months.
with dd i think ive wanted to bf for longer because i was told she could digest it better.
thats a good idea though about only feeding in a certain place.i might give that a go.
did you find it easy to cut down on the feeds?
shes always fed on demand,so i think its going to be hard to cut down.hope she does though because im knackered!!!

its hard isnt it dinny?
think im going to try to say she can have a boob in just a certain place.
do you try to distract him away from his nums?
i try with her,but she soon loses interest and wants a booby!

It was a while back, when I cut down, but I do remember DS2 was pretty cranky about it. I was just firm and calm, and only fed in my room. You do need to gee yourself up for a few days of relatively constant struggles.

He normally feeds first thing in the morning (always always), before nap (unless DH puts him down on his own, rarely), after nap (maybe 1/2 the time), and before bed (always always). But if he's poorly or in a bad mood, and we're home, and he asks for a feed, I normally say "yes", unless I'm about to make tea or something.

i think because im with her all day,she just sees me as a perfect milk machine!!
she wont go to sleep without a boob,but if shes playing with her sisters and brothers,she neve bothers asking for me,and has even gone to sleep on dd1's bed without me being anywhere near!
im hoping taht as soon as they break up from school,she'll want to play with them and wont think about boobies,and maybe i'll be aable to cut down then

That might be a good time to move to bf only in one or two places, if that tempts you.

Does she normally fall asleep while bf? If you could help her to go to sleep without that, it would probably reduce the night wakings, which would be better for both of you ...

if shes tired then yes,she does fall asleep on me.
but its the constant feeding,going from one to another.if i can cut her down to one or two feeds during the day that would be great.
just read your thread,dd does that with the water aswell!!she'll be feeding away and jump down,gets a drink of water (or sometimes even a drink of cows milk!) and then comes back for more boob!!strange child!!

what do you do if ds waes at night, NQC?

I don't bf. He doesn't expect it at night, anyway. (That might slip on holiday, what with jetlag? But probably not.) I stopped bf at night at 9 months, I am Not Good when tired, and being woken in the night just pisses me off. We coslept to 6 months, I did 3 months of getting up to feed, and then did full cc.

we still co sleep,so she just helps herself!!still wakes me up,and i cant go to sleep with her superglued to me,i wait until shes gone back,then slide my finger in her mouth and move her away.