20 weeks in and guess what I'm hearing all the time...

[RoomForALittleOne]

I'm getting a little fed up of all the suggestions that DD3 needs to be weaned. She is not six months old for another six weeks. No, she doesn't sleep well because she wants to feed but that doesn't mean that she needs weaning, it means that she either has bad sleep habits or is normal for a baby of her age! I find it so confidence-destroying and would rather just have some sympathy and encouragement and a cleaner.

I already get 'how long are you going to do that for' from friends and my mum - dd is 9 weeks!
Really really annoys me. And they all think in wierd for bf'ing, it's not the done thing round here. In our local costas I have never seen a woman bf'ing in the 11 years I have lived here!

I think it's hard for the previous generation to believe its right to wait till six months. But the science is there. My mum badgered me and laughed at me for waiting till six months and now she's doing the same to my sister with her dc2. I stand by waiting though, both me and dh have loads of allergies but so far dd has none and I think waiting helped that.

Plus weaning is really unlikely to help improve sleep. Weaning at first makes it worse in my experience, they fill up on fruit and veg, drink less milk and then wake more at night because their hungry.

My sympathies, it's hard to listen to.

Mil, sil, dps cousins, my sister, all gave me grief for 'starving' mu child and said they would feed him given the chance... Needless to say they didn't get the chance!

They have given up asking when I will stop breadtfeediing.

Thanks ladies. I think because she is DC4 I'd rather EBF her for as long as possible because I know that weaning is a faff, time consuming and can make them sleep worse!

My sil popped in yesterday and said she had "picked up some baby rice" whilst she was out as 20 week old was "about ready". Little one is dd2 so you would think she would know that I don't intend to start solids until after 6 months and even then she wont be having bloody baby rice!!

I've been asked twice this week by well meaning relatives when I'm doing to 'stop feeding my baby' she's 4 months! ! I've only just mastered bf, :it's got easy, why would I stop now? ??? Weaning sounds like a whole new drama we're far from. She can't even bloody sit up? ??? ? How can she eat food?
Have a and some

Have a read of 'how long did you bf for ' thread'. ... Some amazing extended bf ladies have posted. :)

My Mum was similarly confused by waiting until 26 weeks to wean. She was a neonatal and then a nursery nurse and was used to babies weaning theoretically at 16 weeks for a lot of her career, but people obviously did it sooner, as they always will regardless of guidelines. A whole extra 10 weeks seemed interminable to her and she couldn't believe that dd was satisfied. As it was dd was 25lbs when she started BLW and my Mum said a few weeks later that she was proud and impressed with how well we'd done and amazed at dd eating her roast dinner, feeding herself and enjoying it.

When I had DS, I received no negative comments about waiting to wean and a lot of support.

I am however still bfing a 2yr old which my MIL says is 'weird'. She's kind and supportive and lovely but she is open about believing it to be 'weird'.