is this nnormal?

[Donna1989]

my baby is 5 days old and wen she cries its like sshe is strsinning and goes red she's always sucking her hand and feeding and been sick but she started to make like a bringing up sick moises then swallows is it normal just every noise she makes it scares me..... also is it ok t let her cry, at the min I'm up all. time trying to ffigure out wats wrong she has nappy done, been fed burped and had cuddles but she still cries a lot on a night she'll only soothe if layed on my chest xxxx

It's really normal for them to want to be with you all the time - until five days ago, she'd never been apart from you.

And tbh, as far as she's concerned, if you put her down, something might eat her. So she makes a horrible noise until you pick her up.

Is sleeping with her an option for you?

aww haha I pick her up and soothe her all time and just don't want me to be making a rod for my own back and yeh I've had her with a couple times but then I don't sleep cause I don't want to squish her lol not that I would just the thought xxx

Donna, please IGNORE any ideas of 'rod for own back' :( :(

Your baby is 5 days old and being close to you and feeling you and being aware of your presence is soothing and feels familiar to her. Less than a week ago she was inside you :) She is upset and fearful when she is not close to you, and this is NORMAL :) In time she will grow in confidence and trust, and you will be able to feel she is comfortable and safe when she is not close by.

It's absolutely not a good idea to leave tiny babies to cry. It's not necessary, it's unkind, and it teaches babies their needs don't matter.

Is your midwife still around? You could talk to her about this. Or call any of the breastfeeding helplines.

Hope life gets easier for you.

thank you hun just a lot of people said that she'll become very attached and affect her later on when she grows id keep her on me constantly if I could love her to bits just people telling me wrong things, yeh she coming tomoz as I need abit of help and reasurance, read over my post sounds abit niglectful of me but I don't leave her to cry just people said not to be on her all time thanks for ur post made me feel better had my baby close to me most of today and its so calm xxx

:)

It's a good thing babies become attached to their mothers.

The ones that don't are unhappy and whingey. I will post some good references tomrrow.

Donna, love, my daughter wasn't put down for months. I slept with her, fed her for hours, and carried her around with me in a sling. She's now two and does none of those things. She is a happy, independent and secure little girl. She happily slept the night in a cot alone at 7 months, and was no more 'attached' to me than any other baby/toddler is in a healthy parent-child relationship.

At this point your baby is operating entirely on instinct. She wants to be with you and frankly still thinks of you as part of her. Enjoy that closeness and ignore people who tell you otherwise. I was told by wise people that there is NOTHING you can do in the first three months that is habit forming as the baby is acting entirely on need; many people call it the fourth trimester.

aww thank you hun really has helped feel so much better now having snuggles as we speak :-) :-). :-) xxx

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2008/dec/13/parenting-baby-sleep-routine this article explains some of the science of being responsive to your baby and how this pays off with a happier baby later on :)

will have a read now thanks tiktok xxx