Well it's a good thing I'm a confident and experienced breastfeeder, because...

[emkana]

... I get FA support from people in general (dh is great).

Comments I get in abundance are "He's so big, is your milk going to be enough?"
"Such a whopper - you're breastfeeding, really?"

Last night I was talking to my aunt on the phone and ds was crying and my aunt said "Well he's not settling on your milk so I really think you should give him a bottle at night."

WTF?

Honestly, with all that and the co-sleeping schtick I've been getting I'm just so, so glad that I'm quite convinced I'm doing the right thing...

Some people are just so stupid.

emkana, I have followed your story but haven't posted before.

I'm so pleased that feeding is going well for you.

Some people can be so stupid, thoughtless and insensitive can't they?

A friend of mine had an 11lb 7oz big bouncing boy, he was exclusively breastfed until around 4-5 months when she started weaning. He was often a hungry baby but she knew what was best for him and stuck to her guns, as I'm sure you will too.

Oh tell 'em all to feck off!!
Some people aren't happy until they've managed to balls up the relationship between a mother and her baby.
It's a weird form of jealousy.

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My 9 week old DD is breastfed and when she was 6w my let down went mad and she struggled to feed - lot of crying and that sort of stuff. My mum suggested to give her solids, she surely can't get enough from breastmilk!!!!! Not formula - solids
I did one-sided feeding for awhile and everything is back to normal. Took me ages to explain my mum why I'm doing this and how it can help

Loons, the lot of htem.

barking

glad to hear you are keeping your sense of humour!!!! ( not easy i know)

at your aunt. I'd have given her a right old earful.

Oh bloody hell, Emkana - some people are MAD.

I've had frowns about co-sleeping lately.

I just smile and say it works for us.

Nobody comments on bfeeding to me. I can't think why

Why is everyone so quick to think that your milk is rubbish? I'm actually starting to object to people assuming I make crap milk - I make very good milk!

You're right that it's a good thing you're confident and experienced. If you weren't, you might just believe that Aunt.

what is co-sleeping? is it sleeping with baby in the bed? i started doing that with ds without a second tought when he was born - didn't know it was contraversial. oops.

What about "isn't it wonderful that we are in a position that you feel you can have an opinion on this?"

surely the only way to remain sane in the early weeks (months??) is to co sleep.

Or even when they are 22 months and a pain in the arse? Ahem.

My two were 9lb and 5 and 9lb 10 and I had alllll the comments about 'topping up'.

Ignore.

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Ah, yes, just remembered the only person who thought it'd be a good plan to comment on my milk - the midwife the night after he was born. My face looked so puzzled when she said I'd have to top DS2 up. I actually said "What with?"!!

Toast?

I was genuinely bemused. She looked at me like I'd grown another head and said "Formula!" in scathing tones.

I laughed in her face

Honestly! I think it is all part of the great competitive conspiracy re weight, feeding etc and I do think lots of female friends/relatives are jealous because if you are bf they can't feed the ickle baby with a bottle themselves! No wonder Tiny Tears was invented... Carry on ignoring them!

wherethewildthingsare - I think you're on to something there. I think my MIL is genuinely gutted that she never gets the chance to feed my babies.

Tough luck, I say.

Last night I had another comment - ds has newborn acne, which obviously is a reaction to my milk, my MIL tells me...

emkana - ds2 had that acne thing. apparetly its a reaction to the hormones he got from me befroe he was born. too many hormones - just like teenage acne. gets worse until they are about 6 weeks, then gets better on its own.

doesnt seem to bother baby. made overwrought mother weep though

there must be soemthing deep in our culture that makes people think mothers milk is inadequate. DS2 has just started "solids" and DH commented
" Oh now he will put on loads of weight"!!

RIGHT! Because obviously a tiny bit of fruit and veg will have LOADS more calories in it that my crappy milk

woudl like to add that thsi is a man with a science PhD and who is father to 4 yes FOUR BF babies

so there is NO HOPE for MILs

Just to add that relatives are, yes, sometimes jealous of the mother feeding. I talk to many mothers who are made upset by relatives' pressure. They will say to the mother 'you are being selfish' or 'breastfeeding means we don't get a turn'.

Sometimes, it's put in other terms : 'if only you weren't breastfeeding, I could help you more' or 'he could stay overnight if you weren't breastfeeding'.

its ok my health visitor told my DH when DD2's was 6 month to tell me to stop breastfeeding and introduce more solids then she would gain weight, yep thats right veggies have more fat in them than breastmilk!