plan out of the window on bloody day 2! sigh & sob.

[jimijack]

Baby just feeding feeding feeding & sleeping lots in the day ,NOT at night.

I'm thinking growth spurt.

So so tired & fed up.

Can't see any end to this, no way out. I'm a bit desperate tbh

Is your baby just 2 days old?

????

Age of baby needed here and some back story, thanks :)

9 months sorry.

Still feeding 2-3 hourly day and night

Sorry, jimjack, still not enough info....is this recent, what was your plan, is your baby healthy, and whatever else is relevant :)

Hi Tiktok lovely to see you here.
He is almost 10 months, ebf,refuses a bottle/cup.
Very healthy little chubster.
Began food at just over 6 months old, bm is his only drink & main source of nutrition.

Tiny appetite, but that doesn't worry me as he eats enough.
Problem free till 2 weeks ago, repeated milk blisters & blocked milk ducts.

All ok now but he wants to feed constantly, every hour over the last week. Loads of night feeds, 1-2 hourly. Nipples are sore.

Plan was to fan out feeds, keep busy and feed every 4 hours for a week or so, increase food in the day, drop feeds gently.

Last night he fed at 9, 11,1.30,3.then wouldn't go back to sleep til 5.20.
Feeds to sleep.

I have tried pick up put down at night, I'm too tired to see it through.

Useless.

I can hear the tiredness and frustration from here, jim.....:(

The sore nipples make me wonder what's going on....have no suggestions here, 'cos presumably he's an expert latcher now. Occasionally, babies' saliva changes when they're on solids and mothers react to that (though it's unusual).

Fanning out feeds to four hours is prob too much of a leap for a baby who normally feeds a lot more than this. Sometimes, when mothers try a bit too hard like this, the baby responds by upping his requests to feed...'cos he becomes even more needy when his needs are not met.

Can you leave it a couple of weeks, so he has forgotten the experience, and then try again but with a narrower time gap? Don't try pick-up etc at the same time - one change at a time is sufficient. Remember 10 months is developmentally a time when babies become naturally very aware of who they are safe with ('clingy' is the perjrorative term!) so he is gonna be v. sensitive to things you do differently.

Could he be teething? I noticed with my DD that I got a bit sore occasionally when she was older and I think it was where her latch needed to adjust slightly or her mouth was sore as new teeth came through.

Thanks.
Feel like there is going to always be something preventing us stopping.

Teeth number 5&6 are currently emerging.

We have both thoroughly enjoyed bf, it's been a lovely experience, just souring now. Not bad to be 10 months in is it!

So I need a plan.
Going to leave the bfing alone entirely and I'm going to concentrate on increasing actual food volume & variety in the day for the next week or so.

Tiktok, I may want to pick your brains in a couple of weeks on what to do next.
I spose I was hoping that baby would self wean as my elder son did. This is so hard.

Agree with tiktok. Any time I have pushed to reduce either of my children's feeding frequency, they have pushed right back and been more demanding. And if you are getting milk blisters and blocked ducts you probably don't want to be feeding less. is there any reason, other than being fed up of nursing all the time, that you need to cut down his feeds? If not, then maybe go with it for a while and try again in a less drastic way in a couple of weeks.

Can you stick out the nights for s couple more months? I know it's a big ask. Have a read of Jay Gordon's article on night weaning an older bf baby, which can be done after a year.

Remember that your baby is really normal for wanting to feed this way. He's still very very young in bf terms.

Dig deep! Sometimes it's the only way through four a while.

I am applying for jobs, and severely restricted in terms of time away from him.
I am looking at evening/night jobs so need to stop.

Also I have read threads on here of people who are desperate yet unable to stop bf and their kids are over a year old. I don't want to carry on this long.

Supposed to be going to see Sarah Millican on Saturday night. Booked it ages ago thinking that at nearly 10 months I would be able to leave him for an evening. But I will not be goin. I have 10 minutes away from him each evening when dh baths him, that is all.
Just want sleep, a little bit longer break and to not see the little fella upset.

I think you should still go to see the show on Saturday, and see how your DH manages with your ds. He will be ok even if he refuses water/ebm/formula etc, just for the evening. 10 months is old enough to be ok for 3-4 hours in the evening. He might even decide to take a bottle or cup.