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Infant feeding

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Well, that was a disaster

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LouiseD29 · 12/10/2013 02:15

Have been expressing in advance of a no-kids wedding we've been invited to this weekend. DH offered to do a trial run with 8 week-old DD tonight in the spare room to let me get a bit of sleep. I finally got up at 1am after hearing her squawking on and off for over an hour to find thoroughly exasperated and emotional DH, red-faced and over-tired DD and only about 1floz less in the bottle than there was to start with. She latched on to my nipple like she hadn't eaten for a month and I have only just got her to nod off in my arms (DH is now also asleep).

I think we might be cancelling last minute on the bride and groom :(

Plus, the fridge is full of bottles of expressed milk I've been working on all week! Wah!

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LittleRedDinosaur · 12/10/2013 03:05

My DD was the same with a bottle. We tried and tried to get her to take it so DH could take over some of the feeds but the most she managed was an oz or 2 at a time and lots of screaming.
Would your friend not let you bring her to the wedding if you explain the situation?

vichill · 12/10/2013 06:38

Thats such a shame as in my experience it sort of just clicks for them one minute.my daughter has reluctantly cracked it after a few weeks of trying. I found rather than trying a bit every day, I assigned a day where I tried 2oz before every feed, picking up early hunger cues so that she wasn't ravenous before hand. If she is gagging try slow flow teats. Also lots of burping inbetween attempts as all the fussing made dd take in loads of air which exacerbated the bottle hatred.

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LouiseD29 · 12/10/2013 08:33

Thanks for the replies. The frustrating thing is she has taken a bottle a couple of times before, but was having none of it last night! I suppose I should have been practising more this week to get the hang of it. Will try again today and hope for the best! I asked this friend a few weeks ago whether I could bring her and she said no.

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LittleRedDinosaur · 12/10/2013 11:45

Hope it all works out OP

RandomMess · 12/10/2013 11:48

My very very very bottle resistant dd I ended up cracking it my letting her feed for a bit of me first and then sort of slipping the bottle in. My younger two weren't bothered at all as long as they got fed!

PrincessFlirtyPants · 12/10/2013 11:51

LouiseD29 I asked this friend a few weeks ago whether I could bring her and she said no

Really? That's pretty bloody tight. I had a newborn at my wedding my DM spent most of her time trying to steal the baby from her parents gosh, that really isn't very nice at all.

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LouiseD29 · 12/10/2013 18:24

We managed to get a bit more down her today, but she still definitely prefers the nipple! Fortunately the wedding's not far away, so I think we'll give it a go for a few hours. I sort of do understand people not wanting young children at their weddings, but I also think that sometimes people with no kids perhaps don't understand how hard it can be to leave a very little one!

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SoonToBeSix · 12/10/2013 18:39

Tbh she sounds like a crap friend If she won't let your bring your breastfed baby especially as she is so young. I wouldn't feel guilty cancelling.

SoonToBeSix · 12/10/2013 18:39

Tbh she sounds like a crap friend If she won't let your bring your breastfed baby especially as she is so young. I wouldn't feel guilty cancelling.

Sunnysummer · 12/10/2013 18:49

That's a shame! She is very little, we cancelled on a kids free wedding at the same age because I thought that even if I expressed, I'd end up having to pump in the loo at the reception to maintain my supply, and it all felt a bit much.

One big thing though - have you got different types of bottle, or fiends that you can borrow from? DS would only take Pigeoon bottles and refused Avent and threw up Tommee Tippee, lots of my friends had the same experience except their child would only take Avent and not Pigeon etc

And last thing if you're really keen, is it somewhere local where your mum or a friend could hang around in the car or a nearby coffee shop and text you the moment there is a hunger sniffle? I did this for an award ceremony thing that couldn't be skipped at 9 weeks

Sunnysummer · 12/10/2013 18:50

(Award not for me, I should add, in case you thought that was a very smug smile).

Good luck and hope you can make it!

VinegarDrinker · 12/10/2013 18:54

We've got the same issue - kid free wedding (well "family children only") and an EBF bottle refuser. Think my DH might go on his own....

thelittlemothersucker · 12/10/2013 18:57

I found a bit of sugar did the trick. I phased it out after ds had got the knack (v quick)

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LouiseD29 · 12/10/2013 21:35

Gah, still haven't made up our minds! I have a very accommodating babysitter staying with us for the weekend, so we'll try the nipper on the bottle again in the morning and see how we go. Was a bit overtired at 2am this morning when I started this thread! Thanks for the suggestions.

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MistressofPemberley · 13/10/2013 10:01

I've expressed the odd bottle just to get 8 wo DD accustomed to it before she gets much older. DH has found that it depends on the time of day and her tiredness. Fussy witching hour(s) evening time was a nightmare, but 10pm and morning much easier. Not much help for a wedding!

I have a 3 hour massage and spa experience booked in a fortnight so really hoping all goes well for DH and the bottle then! It better do as I'm so looking forward to it; only thing keeping me going!

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