Restarting breastfeeding after a month

[BramshawHill]

Bit of context: my year old baby was taken by her father about a month ago, 2 weeks ago he said I'm not allowed to see her at all. It'll be another two weeks until we go to court so in total it'll be a full month of her not being breastfed at all.

Neither of us were ready to stop bf-ing and I would regret it forever if it was my ex who forced us to stop - so what are the chances my daughter will pick back up where we left off once she's finally home? I'm expressing 2 or 3 times a day so the supply isn't an issue so much, I'm just worried she'll be considered weaned after a month.

Any advice would be lovely

:( :( that's so sad, and so unkind of her father. I can't believe why someone would do this to a little baby.

In some ways, it's great you were breastfeeding - when you get back together this will be a wonderful way to re-connect with her.

If I had to bet on it, I would say 'she will go back to the breast with no problems at all' and like you say, she will pick up where she left off. But it is possible she will need patient encouragement to get back to it - you can just hold her skin to skin and be 'available', and it would be very surprising if she did not 'twig' within a day or so.

Are you confident her father will be giving her good care (apart from taking her away from you, of course :( )? Did they know each other? I'm just thinking that she could be very shocked, even more shocked than being removed from you would be, and this might make her need for quiet closeness with you even greater.

It seems terrible that you have to wait more time to get her back - is what he has done not illegal? Would the police not be involved?

Police can't help until I have a court order :( he's been incredibly unreasonable, the last time I saw her she was very withdrawn and quiet so he's not putting her needs first at all and its damaging her.

when she's home, we'll have lots of cuddles together, hopefully she'll be back to her usual smiley self quickly, thanks for the tips :)

Bramshawhill that's awful. I am thinking of you and am so sorry you are in this situation.

I bet she can't wait to have cuddles with you and she'll be back to her usual smiley self before you know it

I've just read this thread and can't not comment. Just to let you know that someone on the Internet who you don't know at all is thinking of you and hope this horrible situation gets sorted out for you and your daughter soon. It's not much but I couldn't read without posting something. You sound like you are being amazingly strong.

Oh bramshaw you poor thing and your baby, you sound so calm, let us know how you get on lots of hugs xxx