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Please help - so close to quitting

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FredKiller · 29/09/2013 05:35

Dd was born last Saturday with a 90% tongue tie. We got it snipped on Tuesday, and had 2 awful days of screaming and very reluctant feeding. We did a lot of tube/finger feeding with EBM.

Then we seemed to turn a corner and she started to latch and demand feed. Until today when we saw the consultant who had to reopen the wound as it had started to adhere. Dd screamed the place down and has been reluctant to latch since.

So we are back to tube feeding, and screaming. She screamed from 9pm til 00:45 tonight. Then she slept for three hours. I woke her up at 4ish for a feed and have just had an hour and a half of screaming. I've just managed to rock her off to sleep in my arms.

To make matters worse, she won't settle very well if I put her down, which makes expressing hard. Plus my little boy (2yo) gets a bit hysterical when he sees me pump.

I am so committed to bf, fed DS until recently. It is so important to me, but I just can't see us coming out of this.

Can anyone give any bright ideas if stuff we haven't tried? Or reassurance that she will come back to the breast at some point? Really wish I hadn't let the consultant reopen the wound as we were doing ok until today and I thought we had it cracked. Now, it's like she hates my boobs and won't even try.

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Lagoonablue · 29/09/2013 06:11

Oh you poor thing. I too am up early and didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Someone who knows about tongue tie will probably be along to help but just wanted to say it is still early. Am sure things will improve. I bet her little mouth is sore so may hurt to feed until it heals? Only a guess.

I would suggest calling one of the BF helplines asap.

BF can be so hard at the start.. Good luck.

bangersmashandbeans · 29/09/2013 06:30

Definitely call a breast feeding councillor as they will often come out to see you. I found it a huge help (no tongue tie issue just usual BF problems in the early days)

DimLight · 29/09/2013 06:46

I'm afraid I don't know much about tongue tie so hope someone else can help but I had terrible problems with my first daughter having thrush in mouth when feeding plus other things & I found it helpful to give myself a time limit for how long I would try to feed, say a week, then I told myself it was fine to quit. Then I did find when the week was up the problem had moved on & I fed her to 15 months in the end. But the time limit took the pressure off thinking long term, you just need to take it one day at a time and its ok to give up if either of you need to. It's also hard when your other child is upset, my eldest saw me in quite bad labour with my second & mimicked the noise I made for a while after, I thought I'd upset her but she has totally forgotten, so I'm sure your son will get used to seeing you pump & will forget quickly. Hope it improves, first weeks are hard.

FredKiller · 29/09/2013 10:44

Thanks. Managed to get her to latch this morning after a tube & finger feed. It was a relief but still not great.

Having yet another skin to skin day in bed (poor DS) to see if that gets things going again. She's pretty sleepy after her screamathon last night.

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FredKiller · 29/09/2013 12:30

Yay. She just woke up and fed direct from me with no pre-feed etc. only for about ten minutes but it's progress!

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Lagoonablue · 29/09/2013 13:01

Great stuff

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