Please help.
Not sure what to do best for my family as a WHOLE.
Have 2 DDs- baby just turned 1 and oldest 3.5.
Dd2 is breastfeed - originally planning on stopping when she is 15 months (right for us for various reason), but now thinking on stopping earlier - but not sure.
15 months is when I stopped with DD1 - and I don't want to treat them differently. Reasons for wanting to stop now:
Dd2 is a rubbish sleeper - last night for example she was up for 3hrs - I fed her for 2hrs and DH then sleep trained her for last hr - basically hand on chest(she likes it) until she fell asleep. I am often going to work on 4hrs sleep and struggling to cope on this (DD1 was / is a good sleeper) and Dd2 is not that hungry and just comfort feeds during night. I don't like DH being up with her for too long as he drives for a job. Therefore thinking she would sleep better if night milk no longer a option?
Dd1 is a pain to get to bed - and is jealous that I put dd2 to bed - and plays up for DH. Think she would be better if we took bedtime in turns and it would be lovely to read her stories. Can do this if stop feeding dd2
One of my breasts fills up very quickly and the other does not. Been happening for 6 months or so now. This happens no matter how often I do or do not put her to feed that side. So much so that dd1 says that I have one big boob and one little one! Basically on the large breast I am often in pain and fighting early signs of matisus (spelling ?)
If I stop feeding her I would just give her cows milk in morning and bedtime - no nighttime feeding and no formula (sorry - I won't give dc formula). She eats well - no not worried about diet.
Happily give up sleep and be in pain re large breast - but am often tired and grumpy and can take it out on DC and DH. But what if I give up and dd2 doesn't sleep any better? I feel so guilty for considering stopping feeding Dd2
Stop or continue? Thanks