Whinge ahead:
My 4-month old baby has been EBF all the way and we have been lucky to have had few problems beyond the initial learning stage and trickiness with bottles and expressing. He's gaining well and is the picture of health.
I, on the other hand, am broken. My hair's been falling out constantly for the last couple of months, I'm fat (didn't gain overly in pregnancy but ballooned postpartum and the weight is NOT 'falling off' with bfing as promised...), I have no sex drive at all, no energy to exercise and stress incontinence when I do, and I AM TIRED. I have to haul myself downstairs in the mornings creaking and huffing like a hefty geriatric.
Obviously everyone's tired with a 4-month-old, especially one who wakes 4+ times a night to feed. But I look at my DP, who is working full time and often getting up in the night to help settle the baby, and he's coping so well. He looks after DS in the morning the whole time from when he wakes up to when he goes to work, and does the same when he gets home (bar feeding times of course) and at weekends he does all the nappy changes and is much more 'on duty' than I am. And when he's looking after DS he also does much more housework than I do. While I just stagger around blinking and wishing for sleep. And yes I am eating properly and everything. Plus I am 7 years younger than DP, though you wouldn't know it...
What's going on? Is it BFing hormones that have sapped all my youth? Is my DP an alien, or heading for burnout? Why do other mums around me all look svelte and capable and not grey of skin?
If you don't have the answer, but do feel the same way, please do chime in - misery loves company and all.