am i doing something wrong?

[smirnoff861]

Hi
Just wondering if there is something I am doing wrong that I can change so I can get some bloody sleep! DS is end, he was doing so well, cluster feeding in the evenings and sleeping a good 8 hours over night. Last couple of weeks he isn't cluster feeding but now wakes 2 or 3 times a night and its starting to get really difficult to keep going with these nights. He was babysat the other night, I left sone expressed milk and he had about half the amount he had when he was baby sat about 4 weeks ago? Is this right? We think he might be teething but I don't know. All I hear is bottle fed babies sleep through the night better so its so tempting to start formula feeding but is it a really selfish reason to stop breast feeding just so I can sleep??

DS is ebf damn auto correct!!

Hi, the sleep deprivation is awful, isn't it?

How old is he? Although, it sounds pretty normal to me. We didn't start getting the odd unbroken night till DS was over 1, and not consistent unbroken nights till he was over 2.

We had the same thoughts re formula, even tried it. But the faff of getting up and making bottles, and then he didn't sleep through anyway made it not worth it.

I don't think giving formula will make him sleep more. I think that's a myth perpetuated to sell more formula.

The other thing for us was that I could bf to sleep. And the whole episode was much shorter than if we tried to settle him without (he just wouldn't).

Not much help for you now though. Keep going, things will improve eventually. Make sure you have a nap when you can.

Thanks! He's 13 weeks old. I got so hopeful when he was sleeping for a good chunk but now that seems a distant memory. Like now he fed for a bit and is just looking round everywhere smiling! He always used to just feed then sleep so don't even know what to try for him to sleep. Its like he has forgotten what night time is!

Can you safely co sleep? A dark room snuggled up with you and at least you might sleep! (Although I never could relax)

I would never trust myself cosleeping, I am a very wriggly and deep sleeper so I don't think it would be safe

My 11wo ds was bf until he started getting reflux, we didnt know straight away that it was reflux so thought he was being fussy. After a stressful day of him being hungry but not being able to feed i gave in a gave him fomula from a bottle. He took this better so i started expressing. Got him diagnosed an on gaviscon within a week of problems starting but he wouldnt take from the breast again.

I actually cried giving him formula but i couldnt express enough milk. Bottles are a pain in the arse, he is totally formula fed now an still feeds every 3 hours, at night too, except now i have to warm a bottle which means hes fussed himself wide awake by the time its done.

I invested in a co sleeper cot, it fits to your bed so lo is next to you but in their own space iyswim, an theres no chance of rolling into it

It is hard but honestly that's great for 13wo. They don't cluster feed forever and then there will be growth spurts etc.

I wouldn't think anything of drinking less ebm one time than the other.

I think generally ff babies do sleep better (which isn't fair ) but my postnatal club proves that some ff babies wake loads in the night still and some bf babies sleep through so it doesn't guarantee it.

It will get easier, and remember never give up on a bad day

Thank you for the feedback, it is hard I think because he did a couple of long stretches so I thought he had cracked it and would then always sleep through (so naive!!) I will keep away from the formula and keep at it and cross everything that he will sleep again!!