My 9MO DS appears to want to stop BF but I wanted to carry on until he was 1yr old

[Gumgardener321]

Hi,
When my DS was 6WO MW put him on high energy milk for a few months. After that my DS was mostly BF with occasional bottle on a night time.Now whenever I am feeding him he spends most of the time looking around the room and only latches on for a few seconds then comes off again. At the bedtime feed if he sees his dad he will cry until he gets a bottle (dad usually gives him it). I think he now prefers it due to the flow and is being a bit lazy and doesn't want to work for it. I know I could express and feed him that in a bottle but I'm absolutely rubbish at expressing. I wanted to BF until he was at least one and due to suffering from seizures he has had to go into hospital a few times where the only thing that has calmed him down after an upsetting test has been BF hence wanting to continue.
He Eats very well during the day with 2 tiny BF and a bottle at bedtime

My worry is that he is feeding very little off me that my supply will be affected and the choice will be taken away from me. Should I keep trying? Should I try expressing? Should I just accept that it's time to stop and switch him completely over to bottle feeding as worry he is not getting enough milk with the two tiny BF then 180ml of formula at night

Sorry to waffle on
Any advice greatly received

P.s
Recently he has only been having 100-120ml of formula on an evening and even that's an effort. Wondering if he's eating so well that he's just too full for the milk?

I'm just marking my place. Ds is the same except will drink 5oz at night. Has refused boob before bed since I had mastitis a month ago.

I don't really have any advice sorry, but can I ask why he has a bottle at bedtime? It might be worth dropping that & trying him on boob instead. Also some babies do cut down on milk feeds once they're on solids (especially as you say he's eating well during the day).

He used to BF on at bedtime but then he started to refuse it and wouldn't accept it or settle until he had a bottle feed

Can you spend time with him skin to skin near your chest so he can latch on without pressure? Do you have a sling that you could use to make this possible?

I hope your DS gets better soon.

Poor you. Big hug. I bet this is just a blip. Just need to relax and have a little baby moon for a while could you Drop the bedtime bottle and spend time skin to skin? I used to feed DS in the bath before bed and then again skin to skin in bed.
He stopped feeding much in the day around the same time. They are too busy doing important stuff and eating more solids!!
We are still bf at 14mo so all those problems got worked through.
If you drop the bedtime bottle it won't take long for him to forget it. A week or so.
Good luck.