I'm 14 weeks pregnant with DC2. Just a few weeks before I got pregnant, I weaned DS1 (at 21 months, after we'd been nursing just once a day for about three months).
The thing is, the thought of breastfeeding the second time around makes me want to fall into a gigantic heap. I know the benefits, I know it's better, but:
I developed an autoimmune condition ten months after having DC1, and I know it will flare up shortly after birth, and it was utterly draining breastfeeding last time after the onset of the condition. My husband is more than willing to help out with night feeds, so we could split the load. I did pump last time, but I'm not sure how feasible that will be this time with a two-year-old running about the place.
I have a great baby sitter who comes in two days a week, while I do some freelance work. I was thinking of having her come in two shorter days during the newborn months, so that I can work a bit/take naps. This seems a much easier proposition if I'm not nursing. (I don't have family nearby to help out.)
I didn't enjoy breastfeeding much last time. My son had silent reflux for almost a year, which meant most feeds were a combination of screaming, back arching, and slinging it all day long to keep him in an upright position.
I feel guilty at even entertaining the thought of not breastfeeding, so I'd love to hear from anyone who found themselves in a similar position.