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Please tell me I am not the only one to feel like this

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Rhubarb78 · 22/07/2013 20:02

i have been breast feeding dd for 4 weeks but had a shaky start with a hospital admission for jaundice and dry nappies which meant she needed formula to rehydrate as my milk was slow to come in. After that she fed and fed and fed which was really trying but I kept with it. She has 1 bottle of formula at night so I can sleep as she feeds a lot during the night and I also have a toddler to take care of in the day.

Anyway, she has fed a lot again today and she cluster feeds in the evenings from 6ish till 10ish. I have been feeding her since 6 but have just had to hand her to dh as I just couldnt bare to feed her any more. I was getting really upset and irritable and I just felt like I needed her to get off me, feeling like this has left me so upset and I feel like a terrible mother for feeling that way but I just really needed a break. Please tell me I am not the only one to ever feel like this. Dh is currently giving her a bottle so she is fed and well looked after. I don't remember feeling this way with ds ever.

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Forgetfulmog · 22/07/2013 20:11

Hi yes I remember feeling like this! Totally normal feeling. Cluster feeding is a real ordeal & I remember thinking that dd couldn't possibly need feeding again!

Be a bit kinder to yourself, you're not a shit mother, you're doing brilliantly. If your dd will take a bottle, why not get your dh to give her say a feed a day just to take the pressure of you a little?

You're doing brilliantly & congratulations on your dd Smile

BaronessBomburst · 22/07/2013 20:13

No, you're not the only one! I remember sitting on the sofa sobbing my heart out because I still had three months to go before I could stop. (I thought you were supposed to BF for six months.)

Everyone needs a break sometimes regularly and newborns are hard work - and you've got a toddler too. You're not a bad mum, just a knackered one. Brew Flowers

happydaze77 · 22/07/2013 20:14

You're not the only one, 8 months ago I was doing exactly what you are now (and feeling very much the same as you are). Keep strong, you're doing just fine.
Keep strong, you're doing just fine Brew
I take it you've had such things as latch and tongue tie fully checked out?

happydaze77 · 22/07/2013 20:17

PS: I used to count down the hours until dh was home from work so I could unglue my backside from the sofa and go to the loo. A shower was a rare treat! Wish I'd had a sling - if you haven't it might be worth as try

noblegiraffe · 22/07/2013 20:21

I used to practically throw my baby at DH once he got home from work. You just need your arms and freedom back for a bit.

AidanTheRevengeNinja · 22/07/2013 20:32

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Rhubarb78 · 22/07/2013 20:35

Thanks everyone, I was feeding her and sobbing at the same time and then giving a manic smile to my toddler so he didn't get upset. Probably made me look quite mental! I just feel incredibly guilty for wanting a break so desperately I just needed to be physically away from her for a bit. I love her to bits and even enjoyed watching her when she was with dh but like you have said, I just needed my arms back and to be able to go to the loo!

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JimbosJetSet · 22/07/2013 20:39

Yes. I have a day of a whining toddler clinging to my legs or nearly tripping me up at every turn, a baby wanting to be attached to my boob or to be carried in my arms, and I get to the end of the day and I DO NOT WANT TO BE TOUCHED. By anyone. Poor DH Wink

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