Tipsy and breastfed

[Cupcakemummy85]

I feel really guilty and horrible, yesterday I was tipsy and breastfed my 4 1/2 month old. I didn't even realise how much I had had until I got into bed and felt rather tipsy. My glass was being topped up all the time and I didn't even know. I feel so bad, dd seems fine just sleepy. I feel really horrible and guilty and to top it off physically I feel like crap. Will my daughter b ok?

Yes!

You can read the stuff on alcohol and bf at the breastfeeding network website.

You have to be a whole lot drunker than 'tipsy' for it to have any worrying effect on your baby (and even then it would be temporary).

Thank you so much for replying tiktok, I feel so incredibly guilty and my dh has made me feel terrible too. I felt fine at the time but feel like crap this morning and thought I must've been tipsy if I have a bit of a hangover. I didn't have much food yesterday at the party we had as 90% had dairy (dd is cmpi) so I couldn't eat anything but a few crisps. So that mixed with quite a lot if bubbly ended up makings pretty tipsy :(

Honestly OP, baby will be fine.

Have a couple of paracetamol for your headache and write it off. Alcohol in breast milk is minute - it really is. Like Tiktok said, you would need to be steaming for any real amount to pass through your milk.

I have drunk alcohol for the last 23 months (feeding dd still), odd beer or wine on a Saturday. My motto is that if I can't look after myself, I cant look after dd; I've only ever got to that stage and it was a hen party 130 miles away from her . I have fed her after 2-3 glasses of wine on some occasions.

The only thing I'm extremely cautious of (or was at that age) was feeding in bed / lying down. If I had had a drink, even just one, I would feed sitting up on the chair or in an uncomfortable place so that I wouldn't fall to sleep (or dp would be near by - not that i have ever been steaming) But just for safety. We did part co sleep depending on her mood in the first 12 months but never did if I'd had even one drink.

I've heard if you're not so drunk you can still look after baby, the you'll be ok with bf. Not all the time, but on the odd occasion. If your husband is making you feel bad why did he not abstain so he could make sure people weren't topping your drinks up? Or perhaps he could have planned ahead with some expressed milk and a bottle? It's not his business to make you feel bad. There'll be all sorts of mess ups in parenting, as parents are human.

Cross posts. Your DH is being a twunt. Why is he making you feel guilty?

You live and learn. Next time eat more food!

Your DD will be absolutely fine. I've fed DS after two or three glasses of wine before and it's had absolutely no effect whatsoever. As others have said, you'd have to be so drunk you couldn't hold the baby for it to have a detrimental impact.

Obviously it's something I don't make a habit of, but it's happened on a handful of occasions. He's 8 months now. Mainly situations like I've had a couple of drinks and he's woken in the night, refusing to be settled without boob.

Tell your DH to sod off and, if he feels so strongly about it, perhaps he could abstain from booze himself when you go out to parties, do the night get-ups with your DD, and feed her EBM in a bottle....?

Oh yes, and do eat more in future. I also find that bfing makes me thirsty, so if I've had a drink or two I make sure I have at least a pint of water before bed, so I don't feel dehydrated. Especially in this heat.

I've fed DD after 2-3 glasses on rare occasions (when she's woken unexpectedly in the evening). No apparent ill effects. The occasional tiny bit of alcohol in BM really isn't going to have much of an effect, IMO.

My mother and her peers carried on drinking throughout BFing and it doesn't seem to have led to a damaged generation though I tell her it's her fault I'm not taller

To be honest I think it was a bit more than 2-3 glasses :( I feel so bad about it still. It's scared me into not drinking now. I just didn't realise how much I was having. She seems fine but it really scared me. Thank you all for replying btw.

Pm'd you - you are being silly - it was a one off and you won't have harmed your baby.

You do remember what our parents and grandparents used to do? Dipping dummies in beer, brandy in bottles?

My step mum described a night when her gp came round to see to her screaming 4 month old daughter, checked her over, asked dsm to get her a bottle of milk and a bottle of brandy and 2 glasses. Brandy each for them and a 1/2 measure in the bottle at 4 months!

It's happened, move on from it

Stepsister was fine btw!

It really doesn't matter. Really.

Think of it like this. Milk is made frm blood. The baby is drinking the milk. It's a bit like drinking blood. How much blood of a drunk person would you need to drink to get drunk. A. Lot.

Relax.