Breastfeeding making me depressed

[Cupcakemummy85]

Me again :( I feel like every week I start a new thread on here lol.
I've really had a lot of trouble with feeding and my dd is feeding so much at night I don't get a break and weaning her isn't really doing much help. I've tried all bottles but she won't take them and she is on cow and gate pepti jounior to put in baby rice. She hates the formula and I'm not surprised its gross. Not sure what to do or who to turn to. I feel trapped and extremely depressed by the situation (which is ironic as am on anti depressants lol). I'm always trying to think of ways I can get out if feeding her so she would have to take a bottle. I don't want to do cold turkey but I don't want to breastfeed anymore. I'm not really sure what help or advise anyone can give me but I don't feel I get listened to by dh or family.

Oh dear, sounds as though this is all getting on top of you maybe? Would you be open to talking to your GP or HV?

Sorry you're finding it all so horrid. I decided I had to stop bfing dd2 at 8 months due to ongoing night feeds. She would not take any bottles and I tried all the 'tricks'. I know you said you don't want to go cold turkey but in the end I found that was the only thing that worked. She held out til 5pm and then we were away.

I hope you find a way to work it out so you can feel better.

I think I'm going to on Monday but if they give me different tablets that I can't breastfeed on they will say go cold turkey and dd will end up refusing the bottle and getting dehydrated or something ( can u tell I'm a worrier lol). I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. I wanted to feed her well past 1 yr but having given up multiple major food groups for dd's intolerances I have no energy and I have another dd who will b 2 soon. It's all too much to cope with. I've failed both my dds and my dh. I feel as though I will have to deal with it and carry on bf because she won't take the bottle.

WLmum, it's good to know someone's cold turkey experience went well. I think I was put off by two mothers telling me their babies ended up in hospital with dehydration. Dd1 I also fed until 8 months but I somehow got her into bottles and did cold turkey but she was an easier baby in general really.

Cupcake, you have not failed your dds or your DH at all, in any way. Nobody looking in from the outside would ever think that. I think you've done an amazing job in difficult circumstances.

When you see the GP on Monday try and explain all your worries about what will happen if you stop bf. They should be able to reassure you about avoiding issues like dehydration. Good luck

Do you think she might drink from a cup? Could you try a few other brands of formula (you could just get one each of the readymade ones so there's not too much waste). Will she drink water? Also could you give her solids that have plenty of water in - melon or cucumber say?

It is horrible to not feel listened to especially if you are tired and I would hate to have to eat such a restricted diet -- poor you.

Come on here, we will listen.

Can you express a bit for the bottles so the taste is the same? You could give her some milk from a syringe (calpol ones work well)
Please don't say you have failed anyone - you are clearly a loving mummy. Bfing is not for everyone for so many reasons, it does not make you a failure. You are trying your very best to find a good alternative for your baby - great mummying. Bet DH does not think you're a failure.