Toddler weaning support thread

[BettyStogs]

So have recently decided to wean 20mo DS off bf, and from a couple of other threads I know there are others in a similar situation, so thought it might be good to support each other.

My reason for stopping bf is because we want to ttc, but my periods have not come back and as I've just turned 39, I don't feel like I've got time to hang about.

DS normally feeds first thing in the morning, about 530 when we get home after nursery pick up and at bedtime (feeds to sleep). On days I'm not working he usually has another feed at some point during the day. He has been night weaned for a few months.

Plan is to cut down initially to just morning and bedtime feeds, then drop the morning feed and finally the bedtime one. the bedtime one is the one I'm most dreading stopping, partly because he's always been fed to sleep at bedtime, and also because it will mean the end of bf

Today was the first day he didn't get his 5.30 home from nursery feed, which went better than expected. He asked for 'mummy milk', refused milk in a cup, but happily had a satsuma. Then I took him in the garden to play until dinner was ready. I was expecting more of a fuss, but so far so good. Will see how it goes tomorrow.

Anyway, that's probably enough rambling from me, would love to hear from anyone else going through similar.

I was on the pill for years before ttc DS, came off it in the April and conceived in December, so not a massively long time although it felt like it at the time. It did take a while for my cycle to get back to normal after stopping the pill, this time I had the implant which is supposed to not have a long lasting effect once removed so I am blaming bf for lack of periods.

Implant was removed at the end of January.

How did you get on with skipping the feed this morning? We were out cycling all day today, DS did ask for milk at one of our pub refreshment stops, but was fobbed off with a satsuma again! I will have to get some more in for the rest of the weekend.

He's now playing in the garden with DH while I make dinner, so should be ok till bedtime.

Yes, pleased that satsumas appear to be working for now, I was thinking I might have to use chocolate buttons!

Glad you didn't have much of an issue this morning, I don't know about you but a small part of me feels a bit miffed that he's not more bothered about not getting his milk!

Hi how are things going now? DS has been asking for milk a couple of times over the last day or two, but after a bit of distraction hasn't seemed too bothered when I've said no.

At bedtime he said 'milk?' just as we were putting him into his grobag, and looked a bit worried that he wasn't going to get any!

Tomorrow I'm off work so will be the first day without DH to help distract but I think we'll be ok.

Yes, dropping the nap time feed on some days might be a good idea - I can imagine it would be difficult to cut down on the night feeds while you're co-sleeping, especially if you don't want to completely night wean. Hopefully you won't have to do that if dropping more daytime ones helps.

I think the next one to go here will be the first thing in the morning feed, will probably do this in a couple of weeks. Might mean me or DH getting up early to do breakfast - at the moment we have an extra snooze when DS wakes up and has his morning feed! With only 2 feeds to drop I'm not in a massive rush - and tbh not really looking forward to stopping completely. I Think DS may well handle it better then me!

Have noticed DS wanting more cuddles during the day now he's not having milk, which is a nice upside to it! He seems to have adjusted really well, asked for milk yesterday & toddled off to the fridge when I told him his cup was in there - no mention of mummy's milk during the day.