Sorry but I just need a rant!
My mum has been such a brilliant supporter of me breastfeeding and gives me so much practical help with dd - including looking after her for 2 half days a week while I'm at work. But she's really pissed me off with a totally out of the left field comment this weekend - probably meant nothing to her, but I can't stop stewing about it!
For some reason she's really keen to have dd come and stay at their's without me and was offering to look after her while dh and I have a "nice weekend away". Sounds kind, but it just seems to be totally motivated by her desire to have dd overnight. This is despite the fact that dd still feeds to sleep at bedtime and wakes at least twice a night for milk or just cuddles (and screams blue murder unless they're mummy cuddles - even daddy won't cut it anymore!). She's never had a bottle and I certainly have no intention to start now and she takes very little milk from a cup.
So anyway, I kind of laughed off her offer with a "oh are you going to get your boobs working again then". And she said "oh she doesn't need the boob anymore - you're only doing it for you, not for her".... WTF!!!!
I was too surprised and a bit hurt tbh to retaliate, but I wish I had now. I mean, FFS dd is 11 MONTHS!!! Quite aside from the fact that guidelines say she needs milk til 1, or even 2 according to WHO, dd absolutely does need bf still. Yes, she can survive a day (2 days a week) while I'm at work, but she's still pretty pleased to get it as soon as I get home and she absolutely totally 100% needs it at night.
I'm just so pissed off and annoyed I missed the opportunity to respond to my mum, so just feel I need to rant here so thanks for listening.
My plan for weaning off the boob was to keep offering in the daytime til 1 and then only feed during then day if she demands once she's 1, but to continue with the bedtime and night feeds til she doesn't seem interested anymore. I think she'll be off daytime feeds pretty quickly doing this, but I know the night will take longer as she's really not a great sleeper. I'd assumed my mum would be supportive of me in this as she's been so supportive and I think quite proud of the fact I've ebf (me and my brother were both bf til 1!), but after this comment it's made me feel like she'll be commenting about that the whole time and like I'm going to have to not tell her I'm still feeding at night.
It's all made me feel a bit 