Need help to stop feeding a two year old

[icepole]

I was hoping to self wean but she seems to feed more than ever, especially at night. I have been ill and I am starting to resent feeding because I can not say no without getting hysterics. I would be ok with a wee feed at bedtime but she won't let me drop feeds and I am exhausted with it. I still want it to be gentle though. Dad works away so he can't help.

It's a shame tat ad works away, has he got any leave coming up? How would you feel about night weaning and still doing the day feeds?

Haven't got much advice sorry. I did wean both of mine at 2 but that was a while ago, maybe speak to a BFC?

I was hoping to do that and I keep almost managing it but then something happens or I just get too tired to battle with her in the night so I give in.

I stopped at 2y3m... He was capable of understanding so I explained it was all gone, empty, none left, and gave him milk in a cup. He asked all the time and then one day just stopped asking... Although I still get a 'mummy is it still gone, still empty?'. I was firm and just kept telling him the same story.

Was he upset? My dd is distraught if I say no.

Initially he was. Basically what we did is made it a before bed only thing. So we whittled it down to once a day. And then we made a decision to stop completely. The first night he was upset but we stuck to our guns, the second night and third night he wasn't upset as such but he did whinge. Fourth night he seemed resigned to it, but he continued to ask for it about 2-3 weeks!

I had to stop... I was beginning to resent it and I felt I'd done enough to feed him for so long. I was much happier when we stopped.

I would be happy to get down to a bedtime feed. She feeds loads still.

Of course it's entirely up to you, bit you've fed her so well for a nice long time. You're beginning to resent it which may spoil your memories of it. If you truly want to stop you may have to just be very firm. Do you have a partner? If you fed before her bed and then if she wakes up at all on the night they deal with her with a cup of cows milk?

And all milk during the day comes in cups not from mummy?

Husband works away, am on my own. I would not mind feeding her at the end of the day. I am finding it tiring at night and during the day. She had big puppy dog eyes though, they will be the end of me. I might try saying bed time only.

All you can do us try. But once you've started I'd stick to your guns, try not to give in and give her mixed messages.

Good luck