Did you treat both children 'fairly'

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Mix fed dd until 18 months.

Ds is now nearly three months and I am now really enjoying the bf and nor is he I think - he much prefers the faster flow of the bottle. DD always preferred me and had the bottle as a second best. DS is the other way round.

Am I going to feel rubbish if I stop soon and he gets 15 months less breast milk than dd?

Only you know that one order

Occasionally I feel a small pang that DD1 only got 5 months and DD2 got 15. But DD1 slept through from 6 weeks I couldn't take the endless nights of aching melon boobs and soaked sheets. So I stopped. DD2 was a nightmare sleeper but at least she emptied by boobs while she was at it.

Different children, different situation, both have turned out to be perfectly healthy so DD1 hasn't suffered any kind of 'deprivation' over getting less breast milk.

You do what is best for you and your child at the time. Life is too short for regrets.

Your issue sounds like something you might want to discuss with a breastfeeding counsellor from National Childbirth Trust. I used them a lot & they were very helpful. My experience was that I was extremely tired (40 when I had my 1st & 42 the 2nd.) Neither of mine were keen on the bottle and I had to carry on for a year despite being desperately tired. I also had to delay op for cyst which turned out to be cancerous. Four months is a good start in life. Even breast feeding can't guarantee good health - my eldest has asthma & eczema. I have never had either. I would have been pleased if mine liked the bottle, both to give me a rest and to enable someone else to take over! Learn from this what you will!

DD1 was mix feed from a couple of weeks and gave up BF at 5 months, DD2 BF into junior school.

DD1 wasn't in the least jealous so I'm not going to wory about it.

I know how you feel, although in reverse. Ds was mixed fed and I stopped bf at 6mo as he basically lost interest. Dd will be bf till 1 yr and doesn't have formula due to suspected mild dairy allergy . Without that I would have put dd on formula at 6 mo as the expressing ( I work) is doing my head in. Even so, I feel slightly bad that dd is getting a 'better deal'.

You will not care one way or the other in a couple of years, believe me!

Treating fairly does not mean treating exactly the same IMO. Would it at least be a consolation if you made it to 6m EBF?

My mum fed us all differently. One of us was BF until 2.5 years, another she didn't BF at all. You do what is right for each situation and each baby.