Do you completely focus on DC when bf?

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I have just had a huge lecture from my DM on how I'm apparently not bonding with DD and she's missing out as I look up/talk to people when bf her. Apparently she never looked up while bf and people left the room, and she doesn't know any mother who would deprive their child of that "special time".... The rant then went on for about 5 more minutes before I left, ending with her telling me she would leave the room if I speak to her while bf again as she doesn't want to put DD through that. (DD hadn't even reacted to me talking)

Now I know she was being OTT, as she has a habit of taking offense to anything not being done her way, but it's got me thinking, am I actually being slightly bad to not always pay much attention to her during feeds? Do you tend to focus on DC, or is it generally ok to not always?

Eh? Be sensible. I'm on phone, talking to other child, dh, watching TV all sorts and look up and down. She's weeks old. (Mine i mean) Can barely focus and dozes off. I see enough for both of us to be happy, that much I know.

Tell mil to push off.

I use bf as mumsnet time too. Baby is latched on now. He has cute ears but since that is mostly what I can see while bf I would soon get bored of looking at it.

Your DM is bonkers. If you gazed lovingly into your DD's eyes throughout every single BF ever you would soon go mad. BF is a great chance to catch up on reading, TV, phone calls etc. because you can guarantee peace and quiet.

One of the best things about BF is that it just slots into your life, you can do other things while you do it and if you learn to feed in a sling then the world is your lobster.

I'm generally on my phone playing a fame, mn'ing, Facebook, something.

I love feeding her, but staring at a baby who generally has her eyes shut is rather boring. I do occasionally, though, as she is goooooorgeous ;)

Also watch her if she's being a bugger and pulling/pushing/fussing. That's about it.

Nope! I read!

Joining everyone else on the THAT IS COMPLETELY BONKERS bench. DS is normally eyes closed, snuggled in against me when he's feeding, I could only gaze into his eyes if I a)craned my neck at an awkward angle and b)prised them open. Feeding time is for Kindle/internet/box sets/chatting to whoever else is around.

hahahaha

no way - BF is a great excuse for watching all the trashy tv I don't normally allow myself.

I do put the sound on low with subtitles, so I can hear when her sucking slows/stops and also because she's a noisy feeder and I don't want to miss half the programme