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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Original poster

want to give up, no i dont, yes i do.

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misdee · 29/04/2006 21:29

i go between wanting dd3 to self wean off the breast, to wanting her off now. lately she has been pawing at me so much. she feeds well, has plenty of solids but is booby obsessed. as soon as i sit down she starts crying and trying to get to my boobs. its wearing me out. she has started waking in the night again, and is having night feeds.

i want to go out in the evenings and not suffer let down pains at 9pm, in the middle of a film. i want to ditch feeding bras.

But i love it whn she gazes up at me with her big brown eyes, then grins and carries on. she looks so contented there on the breast, so peaceful. She is marvellous.

Maybe i dont want to give up something so magical in case i dont get a chance to do it again.

this is so hard.

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misdee · 29/04/2006 21:58

someone give me a big kick.

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pootlepod · 29/04/2006 22:01

Oh misdee. I know how you felt, I felt like that too.

bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:04

Oh I dread this.

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misdee · 29/04/2006 22:05

she is 14months old. i never tought it wuld be this hard.

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bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:11

I planned to stop at 1yr. Now we've booked a holiday for the following month...do I continue to give him a "home comfort" while we're away, or stop when I thought I would and he'll be more independant when we're away? We're going to Canada though and I don't think the jet lag will be easy. But he is my first child so I'm not in the same predicament as you. I know when it comes to my last it will be something I won't take lightly. At Mum's group ystrdy my friend told me she's still feeding her lo, he's nearly 3, he's her 4th child. She can't bring herself to stop either.

What was your original plan?

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misdee · 29/04/2006 22:13

i didnt have one. after pressure with my older 2 to give formula, i was just adament that this time i was going to breastfeed, and that was it. take each day as it comes sort of thing. 1st challenge came at 24hours old, with low sugar levels, she was fed formula via tube. then peter being in hospital, i almost gave up when he was in ITU, but somehow carried on after a small blip. now its just easier to get them out than to take bottles about.

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Aero · 29/04/2006 22:15

I stopped with ds2 at 15 mths and I felt just like you, but he was only on one feed a day by that time. I just decided that my need to get back to normal was greater than his need to bf, and so with a big tinge of sadness gave him his last bf one morning. Next day instead of bringing him up to bed to feed, I just brought him straight downstairs for breakfast and he had a bottle of milk later on. Worked well and it took no more than a few days to get over the sadness, despite knowing he's my last baby. It was lovely buying a new underwired bra again and having my boobs back to myself too!

bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:18

Are you concerned about her milk intake? I mean about the bottles comment.

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misdee · 29/04/2006 22:20

no, just i am too unorganised to make up bottles before i go out each day.

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bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:28

But I mean bottles of what? Could she just have juice?

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misdee · 29/04/2006 22:30

milk, expressed or otherwise. i belive milk is an important part of toddlers diet. she has cups of water during the day.

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bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:32

Would you give her cow's milk? In a cup?

milward · 29/04/2006 22:33

My dd3 gave up bf as she prefered to have chocolate milk instead. She was nearly 2 & I was preg & worried about miscarriage. I gave her a bottle of nesquick & this helped her stop reaching for a feed as she would just feed on demand. Good luck misdee xxx

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misdee · 29/04/2006 22:33

i have tried. i have given it in a valved cup (toffee tippee, any way up), sippy cups, bottles, open cup. she wont take it. i have tried heating it up, leaving it cold, taking off the chill so its just room temp, but nope, she wont have it.

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bramblina · 29/04/2006 22:38

Oh I see, then if I were in your case I would probably continue too. I have heard of people flavouring it, too, just to make sure they get their daily intake, or trying to get lots in to their food. At what age would you be happy for her to stop? And could she give up bf at that age? I fear nights of screaming and heart wrenching. How much do you like her to take?

bobblehead · 29/04/2006 22:53

I know how you feel Misdee. I have sort of half given up feeding dd (11 months) and I just can't quite finish even although she doesn't seem that bothered. I think deep down I would love to keep feeding but I am soooo broody and no periods yet. I originally intended to just give up night feeds, but she's never really been interested through the day other than to get to sleep and she will now go down happily with bottle/ sippy cup. Around twice a day I go into blind panic at the thought of not bf anymore and shove my nipple in her mouth before she falls asleep! I half feel I should take advantage of the fact this has been so easy and drop it now but the other half just loves that close snuggliness that only I can give and I want to go on forever. I think deep down its sad as it means my baby is growing up(though hopefully I will have lots more!)

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