Hold my hand and tell me my baby will still love me

[GEM33]

Had some great advice from you last week about trying night weaning 14month old dd as getting sick of feeding every hour through th night.
Starting new routine this weekend. Basically Im starting back on late and night shifts from Saturday so got no choice really.
I am allowed home to feed whenever I need to but having talked to daddy we have decided we ll just try him putting her to bed with warmed cows milk in whatever cup or bottle she will take. I just think if I go home to give her her last bedtime feed then leave will be more upsetting than me being out of sight out of mind. But then again she has only ever had boob at night.
Dd has been fed to sleep all her life and fed every hour she wakes up so she is going to be distraught.
Do you think I should go home to give final feed or not? Will she cope?
I know I'm over thinking but I feel so guilty for allowing this night time boob fest to go on like this at her age knowing I have to take it away from her and I can't explain to her why I'm not there.
Obviously I'll have to express to get comfortable if not feeding and I'm not going cold turkey I'll give her 2 boobs at 3am ish because she has a learned hunger now.
I'm just panicking. Anyone with similar be good to hear success stories.

I think she will be fine she has her daddy and warm milk. I would think she will do better if you don't reappear start as you mean to go on.

I sleep-trained my DD when she was a bit under a year neither of us was getting enough sleep because she woke constantly, would only sleep on the breast, etc. It was all much less traumatic than I expected and she was much happier getting adequate sleep. She still went on to feed till she was 22 months. It's not exactly the same situation, but I had similar worries and it was fine. Your family needs you to work don't feel guilty. There are lots of things we have to do for the overall good of the family that might not be the baby's first choice.

I had similar issues, feeding every 90 minutes during the night. Dd was around 15m when I decided to stop night feeds. I did bedtime feed then nothing till around 5 am.
It took about 3 nights to get her into this routine, she still woke up allot but didn't expect feeds. She then decided cups were better than mummy at 18m.
To be honest she's never been a great sleeper and still wakes allot at almost 6yo. My point is, she'll be fine, she'll learn to go back to sleep without you. Can she sleep next to your dp? It might make it easier.