Weaning a 2year old from breast.. HELP!!

[Tarlia]

So time has come to stop, I'm sad that this part of our relationship is over, but I am very ready to stop. I always planned to stop at 2years, but also finding out I'm newly pregnant has nudged the final decision for me, I'm so tender and it is also making our mornings getting breakfast in and out the door hell.

Bit of info about DS, complete and utter boob monster, 'milk!!?!' is the first thing he says in the morning and as soon as he is in his pjs he is asking me or if I'm not changing him he runs to me shouting it.

Sooo, this morning was day one, I stayed strong but I could so have easily wobbled and got the breast out. He woke and asked me, i explained that this morning he was having milk in his cup he cried and grabbed at my top :( We got up and got the milk and I still snuggled him close, he kept asking and grabbing at me, but I kept soothing and stroking his head and offered cup as appropriate. I say max 15 mins before he went off to play, had a fab breakfast and at 1pm still hasn't mentioned it. Here comes the dilemma, to I stop right out, nights too or do I continue the nights for a bit (he doesn't feed to sleep). I'm just wondering if I'm dragging out the upset by doing it in 2 stages.

I appriciate any advice you have how ever small. Thanks so much!

Anyone? Feeding time is nearly here and I'm just not sure. I'd love to do one feed at a time but worry it will confuse him. He is a very strong willed child..

Can you give milk in cup first then offer boob and as he'll be full up he'll just want a little bit, and wean him off gradually this way?

I'd drop the morning one first - that's how it happened with my DS1, and it didn't seem to confuse him. Easier on small person and your boobs!

I'm in a very similar position to you - and I would not offer a feed in the evening if you can possibly get away without it. Can you change your routine so you're not there at the time he would usually have it? I'm planning on getting up extra early for a few days and taking youngest out for a walk so the opportunity of a feed doesn't arise in the mornings.

I did manage to stop morning feeds with DD1 when I was heavily pregnant, but when DD2 arrived and I was a lot more available (and feeling guilty!) they somehow got resumed again: I seriously should have stopped the evening ones at the same time then it would have been less likely to go back.

FWIW also, I was fine BF in the first trimester, but as I went into the second I got really bad "nursing agitation". I had never heard of this before and I don't think it gets a lot of airing as no-one wants to put women off BF at any point. I was actually very relieved to hear it was a real thing in the end though, as I was feeling so unfriendly towards lovely DD1 whenever she wanted to feed that I thought I was losing the plot - it made my skin crawl to feed her. (It got better as soon as the baby was born, I should add, so it is worth perservering if you plan to BF longer term.)

Thank you so much ladies, I really appriciate your time and advice. In the end he did have the evening feed, I didn't give in as such, I walked in and was seen with the cup of milk, he asked for mum milk so I acted as if it was always the plan. Actually I'm quite glad I did as my boobs were rocks, I'd not noticed but explains why I've been feeling odd this afternoon. Oops.

I wish I could avoid being around at normal feed times, but I'm a SAHM and OH isn't always around at those times. I think it's important for him that he still gets his lovely morning snuggle even if milk is from a cup, I love it too :)

I've never heard of feeding agitation, wow, I wish I had. I went through something similar for a month or two 6 months ago, where my skin would crawl and I'd feel so cross my lovely baby was asking for milk, it passed but I felt awful and didn't ever ask anyone, so nice to note. I do plan to BF next baby, but really am not up for tandem nursing and want DS to have forgotten before sibling arrives, plus selfishly I'd like a tiny bit of freedom in the afternoon/evening sometimes.

Hopefully this will work for us and in a few weeks I can drop the pm feed too. I hope I remember in the morning it would be so easy to snuggle in together and forget the plan :)

How's it going? I'm in the same boat, about 12 weeks pg with a nearly 2 year old feeding generally morning and night and I'd love to stop too. Don't fancy tandem and want DD to forget before baby arrives. She's happy to miss occasional feeds and doesn't feed to sleep anymore but it does mean she settles quicker.
I've managed to miss the morning feed for the last couple of days as she's woken late and I've been in the shower. Fingers crossed we can keep this up.
I'm also having major feeding agitation (nice to put a name to it). I can't decide whether it hurts or tickles but it's driving me nuts. I think the evening feeds must last about 5 minutes before I ask if she's finished. Most of the time she then lets go and asks to be put in the cot.