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weaning off breast - evening feed

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lilmissv123 · 27/04/2006 12:33

Hi I really need some advice - my DS is nearly 16 months old and still breastfeeds at 7pm ish to get himself off to sleep. This is the only bf he is now having as he can drink water and juice from a cup throughout the day - although not loads. Even after his bath he will walk round with a cup of milk but will only relax and go to sleep with a bf. He associates a bf with comfort. The thing is I really need to stop, I have sores on both breasts and a cyst in one too and it is toe curling when he feeds now. Please can anyone help - I am desperate.

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redstarfalling · 27/04/2006 20:23

Not an expert at all so I thought I'd bump till the experts get here ! Smile

Laura032004 · 27/04/2006 20:42

I stopped feeding ds at 22m. He was down to just the night time feed by then as well. I simply decided not to feed him one night (22w pg and it was getting v.uncomfortable), and gave him a cup of milk instead. To my surprise, there were no problems, he accepted the milk and a cuddle, and went to bed as normal. Could you try that? Alternatively, could you change the bedtime routine (e.g. I always did the last feed in our room, we now go straight from downstairs to his room and cot). HTH :)

lilmissv123 · 28/04/2006 12:32

hi, yes I will try to change the order of usual routine tonight and keep you posted - thankyou v much :)

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Highlander · 28/04/2006 13:36

I had this problem at the same age. DS would also wake at least every 2 hours during the night Sad

I'm afraid I had to bite the bullet and go cold turkey. I did the bedtime routine as normal (bath, bookes etc etc), but just that little bit later so that I knew DS would be very tired at crunch point. He asked for booby and I refused. He was hysterical for 30 mins. I didn't talk to him, no eye contact but plenty of cuddles until he fell asleep. The first 2 nights he woke up about midnight and whinged for an hour (plus a couple of 5 minute-ish whingy episodes). 3rd night he slept through. It took a couple of weeks for him to reliably sleep through but we've never, ever had to go through the 30 minute screaming again. As part of the no booby routine, DH also (from the very start) put him to bed as well.

Our routine is (DS is now nearly 20 months):

6:45pm - Teeth (plus pretending to clean a toy's teeth)
Run naked whilst bath is running
7pm (no later) - Bath
Bedroom - door closed, overhead light on, PJs on
Bedside lamp only - 3 short books, Start no later than 7:30pm
Books Outside (otherwise DS will play with them forever!)
Lamp Off, nightlight on, no talking or eye contact from me. I sit upright at the bottom of his bed so he can't fall asleep on me.

Generally crawls up to the top end at 8pm and conks out. Sleeps through most nights (occasionally needs a 2 min pat and shush).

I found the change in lighting to act as more of a rputine cue than the actual activities.

Good Luck - only do something like this (i.e. where tears are involved) if you really want to and you can see it through. I told myself I wouldn't let him cry more than 2 hours then I would quit and try again a few weeks later. Luckily not necessary! I was too much a softy to do proper controlled crying.

Highlander · 28/04/2006 13:37

P.S. For the first few weeks we co-slept then had absolutely no problems transferring the whole routine to his bedroom

Psychobabble · 28/04/2006 14:16

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lilmissv123 · 28/04/2006 22:15

thanks highlander i really appreciate the time you took to write this - i will definitely take your routine on board - just got to bite bullet i am so grateful for the advice as my hv has not really taken an interest. thank u and good luck psychobabble!

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lilmissv123 · 29/04/2006 20:30

did it - he went to sleep tonight for the first time without a bf - he did cry when i told him no feed but not for long - i feel really upset and teary that this era is over now.

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