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Bye Bye Breastfeeding

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JeniN · 15/01/2004 22:05

Although it has come to an end at a time that feels right for me and babe, and although it hasn't always been easy, I'm sad and a bit weepy about it...I know I'll feel nostalgic for her little baby days and bFing will always be so evocative of that. Had a lovely snuggly feed yesterday, just to comfort her really when she was upset...when it goes right, it really is the greatest thing, and this is just to say how much I loved feeding her and how much I will miss it

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suzywong · 15/01/2004 22:08

Good for you JeniN

Have you seen the thread here it is a celebration BF and will make you feel good.

Dmum · 15/01/2004 22:12

Like me, you must feel so blessed to have been able to care for your baby in this way. I also just felt that the time was right to stop bfing although I was quite sad and do still feel a bit sad when I think about it. (I stopped about 8 weeks ago.) I was looking back at my DS's weight record card and feeling quite proud of all his gains. If I had 10 babies, I would bfd them all!!

Festivefly · 15/01/2004 22:17

I craved breastfeeding when it stopped, i couldn't believe how much it was terrible at the begining! I get the same feeling back now though, when they laugh and talk to me, and i get huge cuddles. I was just stroking my 3 year olds face when i put him to bed. It was like he was purring. You stop missing it in the end because so many new things happen. Take care x

mears · 15/01/2004 23:39

If you breastfed yesterday are you sure it is the end?

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JeniN · 16/01/2004 10:39

Oh, thanks Ff, thats so lovely. I just can't wait to have another and do it all again as well as watching lovely dd grow and develop - daren't tell dh that I want three now! Thanks for all your messages - sometimes it seems that ending Bfing is so full of negative experiences (feeling like its not working, or supply is going down, or others disapprove, or baby rejecting the breast), and while inevitably there are reasons like these that inform the decision, I just wanted to celebrate it (if it makes sense to celebrate something tinged with sadness). Thanks for helping me do that

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Evita · 16/01/2004 15:11

JeniN, I'm going through exactly the same thing. My daughter's 15 months and it's time to stop but I never quite manage it! She's so snuggly with it and so am I but I really do think it has to stop. But just today I went past a friendly coffee shop where I used to sit and feed her often when she was v. small last summer and it made me want to weep with nostalgia!

eyelash · 16/01/2004 16:04

JeniN - your message and subsequent messages are so lovely. Thanks for starting a positive thread.

I stopped feeding ds1 at 10 months which co-incided with starting work, trying for no 2 and biting incidents so my mind was well and truely made up. With ds2 fed until he was 14 months until the time felt right to finish. I planned the last feed with ds2 so that it was snuggly and remember crying as I thought we would never get that closeness again. But you do get it - just in a different way.

Best of luck.

bunnyrabbit · 16/01/2004 21:59

I cried when I read this thread.....

I know I can't possible compare my experience to yours (as I could only feed DS for 3 weeks, for reasons I won't go into now), but the last time I fed DS will be forever in my memory as one of the most beautifull moments of my life. I felt and feel such an overwhelming sadness that it was not to be, but such a feeling of joy that I would remember that moment forever.

You do get close in other ways....but I think I will always feel a moment of sadness whenever I see the breastfeeding threads on mumsnet or see someone breastfeeding.

BR

bunnyrabbit · 16/01/2004 22:16

God this sounds so negative of me!! It wasn't supposed to. Breastfeeding is such a wonderful thing.

I think after 15 weeks this has finally brought home to me how important it was for me, even for a paltry 3 weeks, to share this bond with my baby.

Yours, smiling ...

BR

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JeniN · 17/01/2004 14:50

it's such a strong feeling, that 'last time', isn't it? seems like lots of us remember it as something special - and bunnyrabbit, i remember the first three weeks seeming like an age, so i don't think it's paltry at all. for various reasons i had to mixed feed dd a lot, and sometimes felt sad about that, but we all do what's right for us and babe at the end of the day, don't we? thanks for sharing this, everyone, it's made me feel really emotional too...i love mumsnet!

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