Breastfeeding and sleeping help

[emsylou]

Hi, I would love some advice please! My daughter is 1 year old and we have started to night wean For the last 5 nights I have slept in the spare room while daddy has stayed in with her (we bed share). I feed her before bed and then I leave them while daddy gets her to sleepy land. I go in at about 4am to feed her. The trouble is I can't get her to sleep anymore. The only way I have ever got her to sleep is by feeding. But now we have broken the booby/sleep association it seems impossible for her to sleep when I am present. She gets excited and wants to climb on me. When I try and feed her to sleep she gets really unsettled and she won't relax. I have to leave the room which upsets her but only very temporarily. Will I ever be able to sleep in the same room/bed as her again or am I banished to the spare room for eternity???

Do you have to go in at 4am to feed her? At a year she shouldn't need it. Do you wake her for it? If she wakes have you tried water/juice instead?

I've got a one-year-old who thinks he wants feeding all night, but I'm desperate to get him to sleep through in his own room.

For ages we tried to get him to sleep through the night while still sleeping in a cot in our room (we have 2 other DCs). It was utterly impossible.

Then we moved him out and there was a dramatic difference. For a while we managed to get him to get from 7pm to 6am without a feed, by getting my husband to go to him with water and (for the first time) a dummy. But he was recently v ill and hospitalised so I'm back to feeding him at night again while he recovers. all our hard work ruined!

I wonder if you would consider rethinking your desire to room-share. She would probably adapt to sleeping through in her own room much, much easier - DS3 was almost there, and so much happier during the day because he was getting such a good night's sleep.

Thank you for both your replies!

Strawberrypenguin-She wakes in the night and my partner ssshhh's her back to sleep. But by 4am she won't be sssh'd back to sleep. She gets up and is sure about wanting me. However-every night it has been getting later and later e.g. fed her first at 1am and now it's got to 4.30am

Violetroses-Thanks for sharing your experience. I wanted to have her in our room for as long as possible but I am getting signs that maybe she will sleep better on her own. She is very easily disturbed. We have to creep around and even if I'm lying awake she wakes up!

We have a cot so I am thinking about putting it in the spare room tonight. However, I am completely confused about how to get her into the cot asleep!? I normally feed her to sleep. Or, since we started this new thing, my partner has been sssssshing her whilst lying next to her, which takes ages (sometimes 2 hours!). Maybe it's just our presence that excites her. She literally falls asleep whilst crawling around the bed as she is absolutely exhausted! (our bed is on the floor).

I agree with violet DS started sleeping so much better in his own room.

As far as getting her into the cot asleep I've got no actual experience as we put DS in awake and he falls asleep on his own (with a few trips in and out by us sometimes. Can you express for the last feed and feed her to sleep once she's in the cot? Or feed her to sleep the scoop her up and in? Good luck!