Did any body else feel like this?

[louloutheshamed]

I bf my son, nearly 2, until he was 18mo. I had to put up with the typical mil comments, "he can't be hungry again" "are you STILL feeding him", "are you sure he's getting enough", "why isn't he sleeping through yet" (at 3m) and "he should be going 3 hours between feeds by now" "you should be getting into a routine" etc etc ad infinitum.

Last week my sil had her ds1. And mil is full of praise for how well sil is coping with the feeding because "breastfed babies take a while to get into a routine you know". Yes I do know! I did it! I feel like if sil want to feed until her ds is 2 no one would bat an eyelid now as I did it for so long (compared to mil anyway) but I do feel a little bitter as I had to sort of bear the brunt so to speak! I am just a resentful old cow?

Ha! The irony! You obviously blazed a trail and that's great :)

Just wondering though: why one earth did you accept those comments from your MIL? Totally unacceptable and undermining - you would not have tolerated them from a friend, and your MIL should have been 'invited' to keep her thoughts to herself.

Don't let her get away with it again :)

You're not being a cow. Funny how some people have very short memories. Perhaps your SIL has argued with her Mum more than you did/would feel comfortable doing & essentially told her the facts? It is unfair though...

You were a pioneer, and countless women in your family will have you to thank.

:)

god, yes.

almost exactly the same scenario, nasty nasty mil comments, then when sil produced twins about 7 months later, it was like she was the madonna with not one, but 2 little baby Jesuses. mil used to dim the lighting and rush about with cushions. i found it very hard. but charecter building of course.

Gah how irritating.

My mil (who is actually really lovely) keeps asking why ds (18 weeks) isn't sleeping through yet because dh slept through from 3 months. Firstly, I doubt she can remember that far back (dh is ancient ) and secondly he was formula fed from the start!

I know; amazing how babies born in the 70's and 80's slept through no probs.....

MILs can be awful.
Mine thought I had PND because I wouldn't let my baby cry 'for long' 'kept picking him up'
She told me nursery would 'just leave him to cry'
Would leave the room when I bf.
'How would my DH ever bond with him if he couldn't feed him.'

My SIL has an 2 day old and is being passed round, with a bottle , to all and sundry.
I had hoped that feeding my DS until he was 2yo would educate and encourage my SIL to bf,I'm sad that it hasn't

I think you should be very proud that you potentially paved the way for your SIL to bf her LO with less hassle from her DM.
She must of learnt a think or two from you!

Well done!

*thing

That sounds v annoying! On the bright side, at least sil's baby takes the spotlight of mil's attentions off you. I have a... difficult.... mil myself and would love it if sil would hurry up and spawn. I have a feeling that mil would behave much as yours is- but oh I'd love it if she had another focus for her mothering 'advice' and attentions....