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Feeding in company?

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midori1999 · 17/09/2012 21:08

A friend and her DH came round yesterday and while we were stood talking (no chair available) DD wanted feeding, so without thinking I picked her up, pulled my vest top down (I don't wear a bra at home) and latched her on. Cue friend's DH sort of hiding round the corner and looking very embarrassed. Then we were chatting and after a bit DD unlatched and it was a moment before I really thought about it and pulled my top back up, cue friend's DH looking very embarrassed again. It led to a bit of giggling from my friend (they have no DC yet, although her DH has a son from a previous relationship) and a bit of ribbing from both of us, which he took well. We have another friend who they spend time with who breastfeeds and tbh, I just assumed he would be fine with it.

Anyway, she said she spoke to him today about it and he said he would be fine if it were her feeding their baby, but not another woman as he 'isn't supposed' to see my boobs. He also said he would probably have felt better about it if my DH were here.

I feel a bit guilty now for embarrassing him, but also feel that there shouldn't be anything embarrassing about seeing someone breastfeed a baby and that the more women who breastfeed treat it as completely normal, the more likely it is to eventually be seen as a completely normal, non embarrassing thing.

What do other people do when they have guests in their own home? Confused

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SirGOLDBoobs · 17/09/2012 21:10

Don't feel embarrassed! Your baby, your house, your boobs. If he's embarrassed then its his problem, not yours. I've never left a room nor covered up when feeding my DS, because I've been focused on tending to his needs, not other adults who should know better.

You did the right thing.

He'll find it easier to see next time Wink

EleanorHandbasket · 17/09/2012 21:12

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needsadviceplease · 17/09/2012 21:12

I agree with you, except without the guilt. Afaik, nobody's been embarrassed around me so far. Maybe they daren't say! [Grin]

There's no real choice, is there? Baby needs fed = time to get them out, no matter who's nearby, imo.

rubyslippers · 17/09/2012 21:14

It's my house and I feed when and where

When DD was a baby I used to joke that everyone in the western hemisphere had seen my boobs Grin

Squiglettsmummy2bx · 17/09/2012 21:14

My DS is 7 months old now & I whip my boobs out whenever they are needed no matter who is there. They have a choice to look away but they can't turn their ears off to his screaming if he is hungry. I did feel awkward at the beginning but it gets easier.

needsadviceplease · 17/09/2012 21:15

Oh... Bf in front of 'bloke I used to flirt with' felt slightly awkward. But that's obv v different!

midori1999 · 17/09/2012 21:18

Thanks. She's 15 months now, so maybe that combined with the fact I am an H cup was all a bit much for him... I've fed her when he's been there before, but sat on the sofa and a top that I pulled up, so it was more 'discreet' IYSWIM.

However, we have a lot of relatives staying in a couple of months and they include both sets of PIL (in laws divorced and remarried). I'm not sure MIL/step FIL even know DD is still being fed as they live abroad and I suspect they will think it 'odd' that I am still feeding DD, let alone that she just walks up to me sat on the sofa and I just get my boob our and point it in her general direction so she can latch on. Grin

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