How do you tandem feed exactly?

[Goldrill]

Just what the title says really! I'm 36 weeks pg with DD2 and DD1 is still feeding - only twice a day and not massively demanding. I think I should probably have weaned her a few months ago but didn't get around to it, and I don't want to do it now in case she connects it with the baby arriving (and it seems a bit daft to stop now and have to start again next month!).

But I'm not quite sure how you actually go about feeding them both: I wasn't intending to do it at the same time and DD1 has two very set times to feed - do I make sure DD2 has already fed at these times (am assuming she gets first dibs?).

Also - will I have a few days of just colostrum and then milk coming in, or does it not happen like that - and will the new baby be ok if there's more milk there than a newborn would normally get?

And - is there anything else I need to know?! Have read through all the LLL stuff but it is a bit light on actual practical detail (and can't face the adventures in tandem nursing book!). I was very lucky indeed first time round - had mild mastitis once and not a sore nipple in sight, so am assuming it will all go swimmingly with no effort from me again....

Thanks in advance!

Bumping for answer as I have always wondered this too!

I just muddled through it. DS1 was 4.4yo and started wanting to feed every time ds2 did. I let him do it every time for (IIRC) 3 weeks or so and then I couldn't stand it any more and tried to stop him feeding so much, but it was hard for him to see ds2 feed and him be told no.

You will have colostrum first and then your milk will come in, just the same as if you weren't tandemming.

Having an older nursling on hand to relieve engorgement is great

Joining in to ask for any tips on feeding a baby and toddler to sleep at the same time. 2.8 y.o. DS is not particularly flexible in terms of positioning (I lie pn the bed next to him). DC2 is due in 6 weeks.

I muddled through too, mawbroon. I never did feed DD as often as you did your elder, I kept it to one or two feeds a day. I try to give DS (the newborn) first dibs and third dibs, if you see what I mean, ie I might put him back on that breast after his sister has had a go, but I'd have normally given him first go too.

I have used her to reduce engorgement but I'm not very engorged nowadays so not so necessary...

AngelDog, no tips on feeding to sleep here I'm afraid.

thanks chaps! Muddling through sounds like the way forward!