The Great Weaning Plan (maybe not so great?!)

[sugarandspite]

I'm newly pregnant with DC2 and would really like to wean my 18month old DD with enough time that she won't feel pushed out by the new baby.

Currently she feeds:

• morning nap time
• afternoon nap time
• bedtime
• 1 or 2 times at night

She can miss the daytime feeds perfectly happily if she can nap in the car but otherwise she has been dependent on feeding to sleep to go down.

So I have a PLAN and wondered if you lovely ladies could tell me if it makes sense or is it madness and a hiding to nothing?!

Stage 1: Feed and put her down in her cot awake to teach her to go to sleep on her own. So far this is going well.
Stage 2: Night weaning - probably using Jay Gordon's technique.
Stage 3: Move her to one nap a day (thus eliminating one feed - simples!)
Stage 4: At naptime offer cup of milk and put down in cot - no bf.
Stage 5: Cup of milk at bedtime and into cot.

Probably giving it a couple of weeks at each stage.

Is this a sensible approach or massively unnecessarily complicated? We are loosely attachment parenting and I'm conscious of wanting to make it as stress free for her as possible.

Souns like a goodl plan to me. You might find it easier to get someone else to do bedtime when it comes to dropping that feed.

That's really helpful JJJ thanks!

It's tricky at the moment as she won't let her dad settle her in the night, just cries harder and harder for me. I'm hoping that the night weaning first might mean that she'll let DH settle her as she'll know there's no bf on offer?

And that should hopefully lead into him being able to do bedtime too.

I'm just SO scared of ending up having to see to her and the new DC2 on my own every night. DH is happy to do his bit but she's been so bf dependent its all had to be me.

And of course the little bugger has always refused a bottle/cup!