Still obsessed with my boobs 7 months after stopping breastfeeding.

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I weaned ds off the breast at 2.3 yo. My decision because I wanted to get pregnant, (which worked). We wound down over a month or so from total on demand feeding to nothing at all. I thought he had adapted well.

But, even now, more than 6 months on, he'll still come up to me and mime suckling at my breast (over clothes), or if he catches me naked he'll try to latch on. If he's tired or emotional he'll paw and grab at my breasts in a way which really puts me off.

Is this normal? DH thinks I have made him some breast obsessed freak. And I worry about him trying to feed when his little sister is born in a couple of months.

Some of the advice seems to be to let small children feed when younger sibling is born I half heartdly offered to my older two ( you can have mummy milk but really its for the baby) when they became an older sibling and it just ended up as a kiss/cuddle and then they mostly lost interest once they knew they could have it but there is prob potential for him to end up feeding again so its tricky.

Have just weaned my 22 mo, she is still asking for milk but settling for a snuggle she seems to like it if i am wearing a vest so lots of arm skin to snuggle into. Weaned my ds when he was 14 mo and he was still curiuous about baby sister having milk when she was born and he was by then 23 mo so I don't think the fact you left it later is necc to blame if he does want to have milk like his sister when she is born. worrying about things nearly always makes the situation worse and I think children stroking boobs is prob trying to recreate the comfort they used to get from bf and normal, have seen other children do this when tired.

Thanks for your post. I know I'm probably worrying over something I can't control, but over the last few days it's been getting to me and DH has been going on and on about it. I suppose when the time comes I'll just have to see what he does.

Really hard being pg and having demands form a toddler and if your dh is not on your side about something that's worrying you that cant help.

Come up with a gentle strategy so you feel in control eg consistently say milk all gone if he is asking verbally and give him a cuddle and then distract with another activity if he is patting your top or whatever. Your DH needs to drop it and def not say anything in front of your ds; your ds might have carried on miming suckling because it gets attention or a reaction? He is still v little maybe baby him a little and carry it on a bit when new baby is born but throw ib some helpful bbro jobs like fetching nappies or whatever.

it will be ok x

By babying I meant lots of cuddles and noticing how cute he still is

My son is 3, stopped BF approx 6 months ago and he does what your LO does so nothing to worry about IMO, he also settles for a cuddle now after i tell him theres no more mummy milk left now he's a bigger boy who drinks milk in a glass :) He still adores cuddles though and being close to me.. Its the best thing i ever did (extended BFing)

I think its simply because they remember being held, looked at and loved, and both i and my son miss that now that he's at nursery so i try to cuddle and hold him as much as possible :) Hope thats helpful somewhat but just wanted to say you're not alone at all

DH's comments .. Well! Men!

You can always have him on your non feeding side reading a book while the baby feeds ;)

My DS stopped feeding at 2years, 6 months ago. He never had a dummy or other comfort toy. However, for comfort he still puts his hand down my top. He'll also do this to his Dad/Grandparents. My Mum used to teach reception and said lots of school kids do this- it's normal!

He also likes to pretend to drink mummy milk but has no idea how to latch.

I wouldn't worry at all. I felt a certain pressure from ILs to stop, yet his same age cousin still uses a dummy, is rocked to sleep and has milk in bottles at 2 1/2! I won't worry about my next child being weaned by 2!

Why not let him have a go? He might have forgotten by now - that was what stopped DS from trying again (he was a similar age). I told him it didn't work for bigger boys (I had baby DD too).

Also plenty of cuddles etc to replace the lost ones after stopping BF!

Second the suggestion to let him have a go. If it doesn't work for him maybe he will give up more readily, and if it does you're pregnant now anyway...

My dd (20 months) is obsessed with my boobs. She'll pull at my top and often puts her hand down my too while we're having cuddles. Weird thing is we never managed to establish breast feeding!! I think is just a natural comfort for them - I'm sure it will pass and you'll be longing for it again!!