Went to bf group for some support on frequency of feeds and to check DD2s weight. Had no childcare for DD1 (2.11) so took her along. I thought it was fine as the bf counciller had brought her boy (school age) one week, it was in a children's hospital, it was next to a huge room full of toys to keep her distracted and my HV who reccomended it knows I have her hadn't said otherwise.
Anyway arrived bf counseller and mw supporter were fine, then as the room filled up a HV arrived saw I had DD1 (who was impeccably behaving) and said she had to ask me to leave due to health and safety, that other groups allowed toddlers but not them. She said it nicely but I had been dropped off so had to call DH out of a meeting to come get me.
She then took the bf counseller out to "tell her about the situation", I'm a situation at this point??, asked me if I needed specific help then to ask now basically so I could get out (with nowhere to go), at this point DD1 picked up my tension and started to act out, not bad but taking her shoes off and sitting on a baby mat (no baby on it!), I had to de-latch DD2 and drag DD1 out, DD2 started screaming hungry, DD1 who hadn't really done wrong got upset and I had to leave with two screaming children was so so embarrased.
By the time DH arrived it took 20 minutes to calm my 12 week old and a bottle ironically!!
Now I know if they are the rules they are the rules but should I have been told as I arrived?? The BF counseller basically didn't seem to agree and hadnt said anything even letting DD1 eat her snacks when I asked. And most importantly as DH pointed out what I'f I was still feeding DD1?? Does support stop as soon as they walk, what about tandem feeding issues? And do women with no childcare get no bf support?
Sorry random rant and I'm probably being unfair but I'm not going there again :(