bed linen for co-sleeping

[missingmymarbles]

What do you use??

When I bf DD1, we did a mixture of co-sleeping and moses basket, but it was a baking hot summer and a sheet or nothing at all was all that was required, so I never gave it a second thought really.

This time, I am a little anxious as we have a duvet on the bed. Again, we don't co-sleep all the time, but if DD2 is very unsettled we do (she's 6 weeks). What do I need to put on the bed? Last night, I had the duvet pushed down to my waist and my shoulders were freezing.

Thanks.

You could wear a shrug in bed to keep your shoulders warm or you could buy a king size cellular blanket and use a sheet underneath in case you need to take a layer off. HTH :)

I've done two things, one was to have a single that was just over me and currently we have a light throw that we pull up. I've also slept in a dressing gown, it's not safe to wear a fluffy one though, or even a cardigan.

I've slept in a dressing gown to stop arms and shoulders getting cold then obviously duvet down to your waste

We have a flannel sheet and a king size cellular blanket both from amazon and then a thin bedspread from ikea that I pull over just me as well if I'm cold. I wear an open pyjama jacket so my shoulders stay warm or sometimes an old sweatshirt which I pull up to feed. I usually end up spending a least part of the night with the wee one sleeping on my chest so that keeps me pretty toasty!

I had 3 blankets and a cardigan.

Both of ours just slept with us with normal stuff, we just used to push the duvet down a bit when they were in the middle.

Both hugely felt the cold, but particually dd, as a newborn she used to sleep in a vest and babygro, in a grobag, then under four layers of a folded wool blanket, then (I'm afraid) under our 13 tog duvet.

I remember telling a friend and she was horrified and insisted she would die

Yep - ready to be flamed but DS has been under my duvet with me since he was 2wo. I trap it between my legs so it can't ride up any higher but I think that only occurred to me as I was doing that anyway - knees feel uncomfortable pressed together, am not a natural side-lying sleeper at all.

Originally I tried with a single duvet over me only (actually it's still that single duvet...) but I never quite worked out a way of being certain it was over me yet not him.

I know a friend who had her DD in grobag on top of the duvet. That sounds foolproof...

Like PP's friend - we have DS in his gro-bag on top of the duvet, with us underneath it to the armpits. If I'm cold I wear a cardi to keep my arms warm.

At the moment it's so humid we're all on top of the duvet in our undies!

DS is a little hot-water bottle, always kicks off blankets, so I have to wear long sleeves, a cardigan, or pull the duvet over part of me and lie on it so it can't go near him.

That sounds like a plan - the on top of the duvet in a grobag thing. I had wondered if that was a runner but sort of dismissed it.

Oh, and I absolutely do not use a pillow if DCs are in the bed.

Yup grobag on top of the duvet. Pillows pushed up and to the side so under my head but not near baby and duvet over my shoulders but then pulled down so top half of baby is not on the duvet so if he flips in the night he isn't squashing his face into the duvet.

I also have a cot with one side removed and level with my bed so it acts as an extension and of course has no pillows or duvet in it so I can have ds2 snuggled up to me on that side without any worries. We had that arrangement with dd too, that way we know that the older dcs can climb into bed with us without squashing the baby.

I have a sheet and a cellular blanket, which I find easy to shape around the both of us. I find she has to be pressed up against me AT ALL TIMES so grobags etc don't work.

Apparantly SIDS levels are lowest amongst Indian families who generally break all the "rules" including having them under their own bedding. There's a lot of criticism of anti-bedsharing advice because it would raise the risk factor for these families.

That's interesting confuddled. I live in India and the nurses in the hospital where DS was born encouraged me to co sleep even though I wasn't keen at first. The set up they suggested was to swaddle him and put him on top of the duvet with me underneath so that's what we have been doing. Now that he's a bit bigger we'll probably move on to a grobag rather than swaddling him.

and a jus ing square under their heads to catch "spills" so you don't have to change the whole sheet every time!

Both my DCs slept in our bed, under our duvet. I tried having the duvet pushed down but found they would freeze (blue arms and icy to the touch- is a cold house though) so they slept in vest, and cuddled up to me.

I push my pillow right to the side so no where near his head and sleep on my side with my knees tucked up. DS pushes his feet against my knees so can't really go further down the bed/too far under the duvet.
Have slept with both DSs like this from 2 weeks one was a spring baby and the other aid winter baby. Works for us but have had disapproving comments from people who know. Now I just tend not to discuss out sleeping arangements with HV/DM etc!

i too have avoided the subject around others, but when the doctor finally got it out of us he described it as 'awesome' lol

i have her on a pramsheet to guard against little bits of sick/milk leakage and poosplosions.

Yes, we use sleeping bag with DS on top of our blankets.

I know someone who got a foam memory-type pillow and cut it in half (or even thirds) so it was big enough for her head, but didn't have enough space for the baby to get stuck underneath it.

I'm interested in those who say they used 'a cellular blanket'. Do you have really hot rooms? I had 3 fleece blankets on the bed, wore a vest, a long-sleeved top and cardigan or hoodie and I still was freezing, despite having the heating on so the room was way hotter than normal. The fleece blankets weren't really big enough to have a baby under them, so I've ordered 4 bigger cellular blankets for when DC2 arrives in October, but I was worrying we wouldn't be warm enough.

I bought a fantastic fleecy onesie from M&S which has poppers down the front (essentially it's a giant babygro). It kept me toasty and meant I could push the duvet right down while ds was in his Grobag.