I just really don't want it anymore. Help me wean a toddler, please.

[WidowWadman]

What it says on the tin. My daughter is coming up to 15 months, and still breastfeeds evenings, nights, mornings and during the day on days off (I work full time).

I'm tired of it. I want my body back. I want a night of undisturbed sleep (she's coming over into our bed at some point of the night most nights). She prefers one breast, so I'm lopsided. Sometimes she bites. It's overall unpleasant.

Short of smearing mustard on my nipples, what can I do to stop her? Her sister was breastfed for 18 months, and whilst I was getting tired of it with her too, it was never as bad as now. :-(

Maybe start with night weaning. There is some good advice on kellymom on how to go about it.

At the same time looking into why she is maybe biting mite be a good idea. A lot of the time its a latch issue so maybe some help with latch. To make things more bearable until you finish weaning.

I am still feeding my 2.5 yo dd2 but weaned dd1 around 15 months (12 years ago, hope I am remembering correctly)

I have night weaned dd2 so that's clearest in my memory. We used the Dr Jay Gordon technique, it was hard though and did involve some intense crying overnight, never left alone to cry though. Basically we did 3 nights of feeding her but stopping just as she drifted off, then 3 nights of feeding but stopping before she drifted off so she did the falling asleep bit by herself, then after that we did no more feeding in the night. The first night of no feeding at all was awful, I cuddled her as she cried for about an hour possibly more but I was at the end of my tether and wanted to stop the night feeds. It took roughly a week before she stopped asking for it in the night, and after the first couple of nights of no feeding she was fine with just cuddles.

With dd1 I think we stopped one feed at a time, so night feeds were the first to go, then a week or so later we stopped the first thing in the morning one, then gave that a week or so before stopping the bedtime one. The bedtime one was the hardest but she would go to bed fine for grandma (I was a single parent so no daddy on the scene) so I went out and left her with grandma for bedtime for about 3 days in a row. After that she was willing to have a cup of cows milk and a cuddle from me as well, so that was the end for us.

I hope some of that is helpful and I hope someone with more recent experience can give you some more ideas.

Tomorrow just do morning and evening
Next day, evening only
Next day nothing
Beaker of cows milk (or anything you like) instead.
I gave up feeding both mine at very similar ages. At this age, it's easy to give up ime, just be strong and don't cave in. Yes she will prob cry but by this time next week, breast feeding will be a thing of the past. Within a fortnight or so she will lose the ability to latch and forget it altogether.

blue dropping feeds so quickly is not a good idea for mum. She could end up with problems.

I should have said in my earlier post its recommended to drop one feed a week, so you don't end up with any blocked ducts/mastitis.

So it's a case of simply stopping and putting up with the howling for a week? Oh dear. Thanks for the replies.