oh FFS. Daily Fail in 'boobs are for sex, innit' shocker.

[Kveta]

story here

may have been linked elsewhere.

but anyway - am rolling my eyes so hard they may never return to face the front at some of these lines.

"?If breast-feeding becomes the only way the child can feel safe and comfortable, it could become dependent on it,? says Dr Helen Barrett, developmental psychologist and author of Attachment And The Perils Of Parenting.
?And for children with particular needs that already make them a target for bullies, continuing to breast-feed could make that situation even worse."

and

"In the extreme nursing debate perhaps Becky?s experience is the most persuasive argument of all for weaning children as babies ? before they realise they are being breast-fed at all."

I've got to stop following DM links...they make my blood pressure go through the roof!

What a bunch of tools!

EauRouge

Hmm. So perhaps my junior rank can just be 'slightly distasteful'..? :)

The daily fail has surpassed my expectations: they are more bigoted and ignorant than I thought (and the expectation was v high).

Note the cameo banker who manages to disgust the daily failures even when outside the office by, horror of horrors, supporting his breastfeeding wife.

Makes me feel even more sorry to have given up feeding DS at 23 months (nipples v sore from being 5 months' pregnant)...

Tickle

Slightly rank

Love it

These articles and the comments just make me smile, because I know that the 'nasty' comments come from ignorance and they don't bother me in the slightest.

i noticed they had to get the 'it's for the Mother' comment in there... DD is only a year old and although at times Iloev BF her and it's a useful tool, at times it's a PITA and if it wasn't for the health benefits for both of us and the other benefits for her, I'd stop.

Great point midori

My partner and I discussed stopping feeding DS (15 months) but as a family we think it's better to continue because in the next three month we are flying for a wedding, emigrating (with the possibility of being in 3 or 4 different houses until we settle). My partner and I both agree that for DS keeping the constancy of breastfeeding will be a useful parenting tool over the next few months.

As an aside I have seen an advert from SMA about Dad being able to do the feeding on his head or on a bench. The cynic in me thinks maybe not a coincidence that this article is appearing now particularly after the positive coverage of the Bristol flashmob.

"?If breast-feeding becomes the only way the child can feel safe and comfortable, it could become dependent on it,?"

:o

Um... And?

"My partner and I both agree that for DS keeping the constancy of breastfeeding will be a useful parenting tool over the next few months."

It will also be a useful parenting tool on those flights :)

Breasts - never leave home without them.

Honestly - how do people parent without boobs? I am in awe!

Reading that article definitely felt like breastfeeding bingo, it had it all in there.

My boobs belong to everyone except me it seems... Sigh.

When does it become 'extreme' btw? Dd is nearly 1... Just want to know when to apply for my 'you are sick' badge

:o extreme breastfeeding

To me that is things like - being able to feed while walking around doing other things (no sling!)

Or feeding for 2.5 solid hours without coming up for air (DD2, 2 days old, bringing in my milk).

Thinking about it, all the extreme stuff - skin to skin with newborn while you are being stitched up, persevering when your nipples are bleeding and your breasts are like hot rocks etc. - happens at the start.

Giving the odd feed to a 3 year old is the total opposite of extreme.

Ds3 is 3yrs 3mths
And rarely feeds now. Less and less as he is disgusted by the lack is supply when he does
I'll miss it but more because I'll miss him being a baby. We haven't been doing it for me though, there have been times when I would have preferred to be doing anything but
And dh has had 'access' all along. Well when I say he could but it was tiredness that was more to blame for any level of rejection not the breastfeeding. And if anything bfing meant I got more sleep

"You have to ask yourself: ?Is it the child?s or actually the mother?s needs that are being served here??

A woman is evidently bad if she puts her baby's needs before her husband's. But if we really want to make a practice suspect, we can suggest that she is actually fulfilling her own needs. Shock horror! How depraved can these creatures get? Thinking of their own needs when they have a man to think about!

"?There?s a point when she has to resume intimacy with her husband, so I sympathise totally with men who feel, that by the time a child is old enough to help itself to milk, their partner?s breasts should have resumed their sexual function.?"

Yep, because there is no way we can conceive of a woman's body in any other way than as fulfilling a function for somebody else.

"As a father you don?t have that closeness with your children for the first few years because the breast-feeding bond is so strong and exclusive.?"

Speak for yourself, mate; all the dads in my family have managed it. You can bond just as well over a dirty nappy in my experience.

Someone on my fb linked to this, o knew there would new thread about it. 'Extreme breastfeeding' ffs. Someone needs to tell most of the world's mothers!

Bless these desperately insecure men who can't handle the fact that breasts have two functions and require attention at the expense of their own children.

I wonder of any of our weird ideas about breasts could be related to the way breasts and feeding are discussed in the media? Thanks DM

Aah! I was gnashing my teeth at 'extreme breastfeeding' being used every other sentence. I started typing a comment and a clicking a few down arrows but lost the will in the end.

I wouldn't even have had to read this story if I hadn't followed the link to the dogpoo-throwing model that was posted yesterday.

When ever I see that 'it's more for the mother's benefit...' blah blah blah, I always think (apart from, well, no, it's really not ) of all the thousands of times I've heard women say, completely justifiably, that they stopped, or didnt breastfeed because it was better for them, and what they wanted.
So that's ok, but if it might be better for a woman to continue to breastfeed it's suddenly Not Ok At All, and in fact is suspect, extreme and a bit Wrong.

" I sympathise totally with men who feel, that by the time a child is old enough to help itself to milk, their partner?s breasts should have resumed their sexual function.?"

Jesus

There is so much wrong with that sentence, I barely know where to start...

That it is up to my husband when parts of my body should be made available to serve his sexual appetite... WTAF?!

athing Breasts - never leave home without them.

I had that thought yesterday when I saw a half drunk bottle dropped on the pavement with no baby insight. No chance of DS throwing my boobs out of the pram!

I don't have any children so therefore I am unable to give advice on raising children the only experience and involvement I've had with children is doing the odd bit of child minding here and there, which has made both parents and children happy in equal measure, the kids being able to take advantage of my easy-going nature, sorry if I'm blowing my own trumpet here, and forgive me for digressing. Anyway back to the matter in hand even I know that once a child is old enough to pick up a spoon or knife and fork, he/she certainly doesn't need breastfeeding. Also who is getting the most of this, the mother or the children in the above article? I ask because a few years ago there was something like this on TV and Dr Hillary Jones said something similar to the mother who was breastfeeding her 4 year old daughter.

• Sarah ( UKIP supporter and early 1990's fan), SW Scotland, 12/7/2012

says it all

Read more: www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2172282/Breastfeeding-How-does-man-cope-wife-wont-stop.html#ixzz20Ubj4Zrg

Oh, will someone please make some photoshop mash-ups of extreme breastfeeding, along the lines of Extreme Ironing? Please?

we should all actually do some extreme bfing and do a tumblr of it :o I fed DD in her sling at the Olympic torch relay last week, and also fed her in a fire station mess room - does tht count as extreme?! :o

we need some folk feeding on top of mountains, on boats, next to a lion enclosure, on a roof, etc etc :o

that's sounds like a good summer mission to be completed.

i wonder where we can go and feed in an extreme way? the foyer of the Daily Mail perhaps?

No Kveta, you must do it whilst basejumping from the top of the Eiffel Tower if you want to outdo these extreme mothers the DM is fretting about.

Now, I read this article in the actual paper at MILs house rather than online. I have just had a look at the website comments - there are actually people that think bf above the age of one is child abuse and should be criminalised! Better get round the world and lock up all those mothers in non westernised countries then - get the boobie police onto them at once.