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Feeling down, needing some encouragement

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MollyDefoe · 25/06/2012 13:20

Sorry for a rather self-centred post, but I'm feeling a bit down about bf and really need some encouragement to keep going.

DD is coming up to 8 wo. I had a really difficult, life-threatening birth, which meant we couldn't begin trying to bf for about 24hrs after the birth. I have inverted nipples, which DD found very difficult, and wouldn't usually latch on - so I expressed colostrum, and fed her via syringe and tube. For the first 2 weeks, I kept trying to get her to latch, but mainly expressed and tube-fed her. Then I got a terrible bout of mastitis, and ended up in hospital - in a high risk infection ward, where DD wasn't allowed to visit. I kept expressing, but the affected breast went into "shut down" and stopped producing any milk - so we started introducing formula. When I got out of hospital, I started trying to get my supply up, but the left breast still wasn't producing any milk. Things started getting better at 4 weeks: DD was diagnosed with 80% tongue tie, which was snipped, and she started feeding from the breast with nipple-shields. I got a prescription for domperidone which, combined with deep tissue breast massage, has helped my supply - although we're probably topping up between 30-50% with formula. 10 days ago, DD started feeding without the shields, but I straight away developed an agonisingly painful crack on my right nipple. It still hasn't healed and means I dread every feed - especially as the left breast still produces very little, so the bulk of her milk comes from the right nipple. I just don't know what to do about it - it hurts so much that this is the first time I've really contemplated giving up bf. But we've come through so much, that it would seem silly to give up for a tiny crack. I think I really need some encouragement to keep going...

Sorry for the self-centred post :-(

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MNP · 25/06/2012 13:30

Congratulations and well done and ouch.

Are you using anything on the cracked nipple? I would suggest a Hydrogel wound pad and lansinoh cream, could you go back to the shields for a little while perhaps.

MollyDefoe · 25/06/2012 14:46

Thanks MNP.

I've been putting tons of Lansinoh on the nipple, but it's not really helping it to heal. I'm going to the GP this afternoon, and will get a prescription for some hydrogel pads. DD now won't feed with nipple shields on! Previously I would have been ecstatic about this, but it's so ironic that now I need her to feed with the shield on, she won't!

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hefner · 25/06/2012 15:42

Ouch, poor you. Well done for continuing to BF after such a difficult start, it sounds like you're doing a brilliant job. You could try expressing a little bit of milk at the end of feeds and gently rubbing it into the crack, might help to speed up healing.

Jenjii · 25/06/2012 17:20

Wow! Well done for continuing through all that! I have had similar issues to you.. though not as severe thankfully. Difficult birth, flat nipples and tube feeding followed by several bouts of mastitis. My ds is now 13 weeks, and still feeding with nipple shields. I thought about giving up several times but so, so glad I kept going. Everything suddenly fell into place around 10 weeks mark, which I believe is common, and not too far off for you! My advice for the top 2 things which allowed me to keep going are:

  1. Find a local breast feeding support group and go along every week - whether you think you are having problems with feeding that week or not. You can always pick up tips to improve your technique which will make feeding easier and less painful.
  2. Try not to think about how long you have to go with breastfeeding. Just focus on getting through one more day or week and then see how you feel. So many times I've said I'll do one more week and then I'm moving to formula, and now I'm suddenly enjoying it!
Good luck and well done again for doing such a fantastic job so far. xx
MollyDefoe · 25/06/2012 17:39

Thanks hefner and jenjii! I've just got back from the GP, who thinks I have thrush in my right nipple. This is a bummer, but at least there's now something I can do about it, instead of just hoping the crack will heal up. Jenjii - I think you're absolutely right about taking each day as it comes. I have no idea at the moment about how long I plan to bf for: every week seems to throw up a different hurdle! I'm just really hoping that it begins to get easier sometime soon...

Thanks for your support!

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sc2987 · 25/06/2012 18:42

You can make a full supply with only one breast. Not that you should need to, as I'm sure it will heal, but just to reassure you she won't starve!

flowerflo · 25/06/2012 20:21

Just wanted to say you are doing a great job and you've done brilliantly to carry on bf despite your circumstances. I had a difficult start to bf too and can relate to the feeling of dreading each feed. I just took each day at a time and said to myself that everyday I gave breast milk was a bonus. The cracks healed, the pain went and now 5 months on I can honestly say I enjoy breastfeeding (never believed I would say that!). It really will get easier I'm sure :). I would also recommend going to a breastfeeding support group. My nct bf counsellor was great (and sometimes it helped to see that other people were even worse off than me haha!!!). Take care x

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