Help! I've had enough how do I stop

[denise77]

dd2 is 19 months old she has always been exclusively breastfed! Dd1 stopped breastfeeding at 20 months I said thats it its finished and she accepted it. Now dd2 is strong willed will scream her head off (very high pitched scream) if she doesn't get her milk I have tried to gradually reduce her feeds she is fine at nursery and home when I'm not around but when I am she just wants milk and pounces on me. Nights are worse she can wake up anywhere between every 30minutes to 2 hours I tried not to feed her at night but the screams come out of her and i fear dd1 will wake up and our neighbours we live in a flat.

Dh has suggested going away for a night I'm not sure this will work. I also have been told to put bitter bite on my nipples again not to sure. I do know that i am loosing my patience with breastfeeding now and i want my lfe back not to mention my sleep! Any ideas?? Sorry it's soo long

I bf DC1 to 14 mo and she weaned fine, but for a while after that she was waking repeatedly for drinks of cow/formula milk in the night.

One night we bit the bullet and refused. She screamed and cried.

The next night, the same.

The third night, she was fine and slept. We never looked back.

Can your DC1 go to stay with a grandparent for a night whilst you tackle it? Warn your neighbours, apologise in advance, buy them bottles of wine to say sorry, and earplugs?

Pick a time when your DP can support you fully. And when you can catch up on sleep in the day. In our case, we had to wait for a bank holiday weekend.

Good luck!

watching, as 23mnth old still wont stop, cries like his heart is broken!!

Poppy thanks for the advice I was afraid it was going to be something along those lines, no one to leave dd1 with my parents are overseas and dh's are miles away from us. Did you start in the morning or nighttime been thinking maybe easier if I start in the morning so she gets the picture by nighttime

Nailak it's heartbreaking listening isn't it I always think I'm not giving in this time and 20 minutes later I give in cos I get sleepy not to mention my ears hurt!

I think you have to just go for it.

The other thing I would say is...are you 100% sure in your heart as well as head that this is what you want?

I just say because I tried to stop bf'ing DC2 half-heartedly a few months back and it was doomed from the start, my heart wasn't in it at all.

I'm sure hun, It's getting to the stage where my nights are so awful I feel like shouting at her to get off me - that's not me As much as I have enjoyed the journey I need my life back. I feel like breastfeeding dictates my life at the moment
Guess you are right I have to go for it! I'm off work from Thursday so will plan to stop then!